For ZBuck (and all):
I've been giving this some thought, a (to me) significant example of Fe stifling Fi (perhaps I should be specific to Fi/Ne observing Fe/Ni). This is a big example, and personal, so please, no one quote this whole post.
For me, Fi is not about feelings per se, but feelings are what I get as signals that something isn't fitting right. So, although the function differs from emotion, emotions are the flashing alarm bells, so to speak.
And this is long. Apologies in advance.
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To me, Ted is effectively Bob's pawn, and Bob, despite all the goodness in his heart, is NOT thinking about the whole group here. He has effectively engineered this whole terrible split of the congregation, one that I could feel in my heart was happening and was wrong, but couldn't fully pin down until the plan was close to completion, and when I did raise concerns all along the way, I was placated or ignored and we did stuff like "surveys" to appease the unhappy and ensure that majority rule would persist.
The congregation is now half the size. Might go bankrupt. Apparently they are even talking about whether they are going to be a Liturgical congregation anymore. I would have never imagined this possible 5 years ago. That church was a rock. We joined that congregation because it did seem so good in an interpersonal way.
I don't think Bob is a bad guy. I think he believes in his heart he is doing lots of the right things. We spoke recently, and I passionately shared all the concerns of my heart, and how people followed him and trusted him, but how could all these changes be right when they have alienated half of the people who used to come here! I don't think Ted is blameless, but I know he doesn't "see" people or "get" people like Bob does. Ted's so trusting, and doesn't think very far ahead. I think Bob is the inspiration or "mastermind" behind much of this.
And of course there are other players, but the story is tl;dr as it is!
I think Bob's personal vision of what's right for HIM has replaced the vision of what's right for ALL.
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To me, this is how the group stifles the individual, Fe vs Fi. Unless Fi can stand up and righteously give a voice to and declare the problem, Fi-er's are just like little nagging voices of dissension to Fe. You can't imagine how hard I try to work within any system, using Fe tools, but I can't engineer a situation like the one above. I don't surround myself with people who can give majority consensus when needed; as an introvert too, my energies are more limited in these social environs.
When I have authority (like I'm the boss or in my work with charities) it's easier to keep track of where everyone is, but in these situations, when stuff is happening behind the scenes and I can only sense it but not verify it, very challenging.
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Does that help at all?