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    Quote Originally Posted by Magic Qwan View Post
    She knows some of it…
    They fight about it…




    I am about to start my senior year.





    I'll probably get money to go to school in-state, but I'll have to maintain perfect grades or I won't be able to afford to continue going and I'll be stranded here.




    I've stressed so much about college majors so much that its a wonder I don't have grey hair…
    aw wow that sucks magic...i'm sorry

    well get amazing grades and try to go out of state if possible...or at least somewhere nearby where you can meet people that you can connect with.

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    Don't you have extended family who could get involved? Someone you could live with? That guy sounds dangerous as hell. If anything else, I would've said the police, but your situations sounds very complicated.

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    I'm sorry to hear about the situation. I agree it sounds dangerous! Can you try getting out of there somehow?
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    Oh no your situation does sound extremely hard to deal with, and that feels like a massive understatement ): In the off chance that you haven't already thought of/ tried this, do you have other relatives or even friends from school (and their families)/trusted teachers you could live with safely? I agree that getting away from him should be a priority if at all possible ><

    If you can't find any way to get away from him for now, don't lose hope. as much as it'll never make up for more real life interaction, I hope interacting online on forums like these can help you feel a little less alone and tide over the remaining of your highschool days. For college, I was wondering if there might be financial aid schemes/ scholarships which could bring you to a further college, possibly out of state?

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    Quote Originally Posted by 31january View Post
    Oh no your situation does sound extremely hard to deal with, and that feels like a massive understatement ): In the off chance that you haven't already thought of/ tried this, do you have other relatives or even friends from school (and their families)/trusted teachers you could live with safely? I agree that getting away from him should be a priority if at all possible ><

    If you can't find any way to get away from him for now, don't lose hope. as much as it'll never make up for more real life interaction, I hope interacting online on forums like these can help you feel a little less alone and tide over the remaining of your highschool days. For college, I was wondering if there might be financial aid schemes/ scholarships which could bring you to a further college, possibly out of state?
    Maybe…
    I could go to a school in New Orleans, a five hour drive southeast of where I live, and still be in-state…



    I'm drawn to Alaska, but I can't think of a way to get there…



    I am now fairly sure I'll be a teacher…

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    Quote Originally Posted by Magic Qwan View Post
    Well, there is a man that lives in my house that tells me how useless and ugly I am every day, then punches me in the chest…
    Quote Originally Posted by Magic Qwan View Post
    She knows some of it…
    They fight about it…

    Hey Magic Qwan... I keep coming back to this thread... reading... intending to respond... hitting the 'Reply With Quote' button... wanting to respond... And then becoming so overwhelmed with anger and frustration I can't bring myself to type.

    I speak about this every once and a while on the site... how I was raised in a very different kind of cultural environment. And because of this... my whole life...I've struggled to try and match my behavior with what would be deemed appropriate 'on the outside.' I've struggled to learn how to bite my tongue...to seem less passionate... to hide my anger in the face of injustice...but rather remain calm and 'reasonable' *eye roll.* But I'll risk being judged poorly and tell you how I truly feel ... I feel it is probably a good thing my path will never cross with this man's you speak of above.


    This is abuse MQ - you know that right? And no human being need suffer in this way. I'm not asking you to disclose the nature of this man's relationship to your Mom... but if this is a 'bf' of sorts...I want you to consider the possibility there may be higher levels of denial on her part at play (God this really pisses me off.) What I'm getting at is...you can't wait around for her to figure it out on her own...seeing as her solution so far has been to 'fight with him' about it. You are going to need to make this decision by yourself - to stand-up for yourself...your high worth...your rights...and the rights of others in a similar way. And you need to do this now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starry View Post
    Hey Magic Qwan... I keep coming back to this thread... reading... intending to respond... hitting the 'Reply With Quote' button... wanting to respond... And then becoming so overwhelmed with anger and frustration I can't bring myself to type.

    I speak about this every once and a while on the site... how I was raised in a very different kind of cultural environment. And because of this... my whole life...I've struggled to try and match my behavior with what would be deemed appropriate 'on the outside.' I've struggled to learn how to bite my tongue...to seem less passionate... to hide my anger in the face of injustice...but rather remain calm and 'reasonable' *eye roll.* But I'll risk being judged poorly and tell you how I truly feel ... I feel it is probably a good thing my path will never cross with this man's you speak of above.


    This is abuse MQ - you know that right? And no human being need suffer in this way. I'm not asking you to disclose the nature of this man's relationship to your Mom... but if this is a 'bf' of sorts...I want you to consider the possibility there may be higher levels of denial on her part at play (God this really pisses me off.) What I'm getting at is...you can't wait around for her to figure it out on her own...seeing as her solution so far has been to 'fight with him' about it. You are going to need to make this decision by yourself - to stand-up for yourself...your high worth...your rights...and the rights of others in a similar way. And you need to do this now.
    You know what? I think I will. Enough is enough.
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