Mind Maverick
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When you're perceived as typically being unemotional and chill* because...
1) You "numb out" to emotions due to low willingness to experience anything that disturbs your inner harmony
2) Enneagram / Big 5 overlap statistics state that 9s generally have quite low neuroticism (albeit personally, mine's likely about average).
*If you're stressed then people start seeing you lose your mind and crack apart with a lot of anxieties finally at times, but other times they find you dissociated and unable to face anything, just numb to the point where you can't answer certain questions (especially about yourself; how you feel, what you think, etc.) and just say "I don't know."
When your friends start to worry when you seem a little too carefree, but it's hard not to lie and say "I'm fine" if they ask because...
1) Sometimes if you didn't then you'd have to admit you're not okay to yourself, too...and you don't want to face anything because it throws you off that inner equilibrium, you lose your sense of inner peace by thinking about the shit going on in your life. Your struggle is basically accepting the fact that you have to break down in order to break through, you can't play ostrich with the mountain, you've got to climb it.
2) You are unintrusive and don't want to bother anyone with your problems (9s don't want to deal with their own or anyone else's problems, and also have low assertiveness; they don't assert their own needs, they're passive).
When you aren't sure why or how most others get as emotional as they do, especially in the anger department
and when they do it sometimes triggers an "I'm not here, I don't exist" response where you don't want to disturb the waters and probably get out of the way. If you can't literally remove yourself, you probably tune it out and disconnect from it or go along with it like it's an NPC that forces you to "talk" to them and you're just hitting that Enter key repeatedly until all the chat bubbles are gone and you can move your character away from it. Why? Because anger makes for fragile harmony, so it seems threatening...and you probably don't want to deal with it anyways.
When you are capable of seeming to be outwardly participating but are (secretly) inwardly detached as hell, unable to be fazed;
withdrawn inside yourself, locked inside an inner sanctum as if your true existence resides in some other unseen and impenetrable layer of reality. This is especially the case in Soc IV 9s.
When you relate to attachment triad in the way it applies to 9s specifically
which is in the sense that 9s attach themselves to the external to form their sense of identity; mirroring others, going along with them, blending, adapting, and forsaking yourself in conformity to whatever will maintain good relations with them, and whatever will kick the conflict to the curb...and you fear a loss of closeness to them if you do otherwise.
1) You "numb out" to emotions due to low willingness to experience anything that disturbs your inner harmony
2) Enneagram / Big 5 overlap statistics state that 9s generally have quite low neuroticism (albeit personally, mine's likely about average).
*If you're stressed then people start seeing you lose your mind and crack apart with a lot of anxieties finally at times, but other times they find you dissociated and unable to face anything, just numb to the point where you can't answer certain questions (especially about yourself; how you feel, what you think, etc.) and just say "I don't know."
When your friends start to worry when you seem a little too carefree, but it's hard not to lie and say "I'm fine" if they ask because...
1) Sometimes if you didn't then you'd have to admit you're not okay to yourself, too...and you don't want to face anything because it throws you off that inner equilibrium, you lose your sense of inner peace by thinking about the shit going on in your life. Your struggle is basically accepting the fact that you have to break down in order to break through, you can't play ostrich with the mountain, you've got to climb it.
When you aren't sure why or how most others get as emotional as they do, especially in the anger department
and when they do it sometimes triggers an "I'm not here, I don't exist" response where you don't want to disturb the waters and probably get out of the way. If you can't literally remove yourself, you probably tune it out and disconnect from it or go along with it like it's an NPC that forces you to "talk" to them and you're just hitting that Enter key repeatedly until all the chat bubbles are gone and you can move your character away from it. Why? Because anger makes for fragile harmony, so it seems threatening...and you probably don't want to deal with it anyways.
When you are capable of seeming to be outwardly participating but are (secretly) inwardly detached as hell, unable to be fazed;
withdrawn inside yourself, locked inside an inner sanctum as if your true existence resides in some other unseen and impenetrable layer of reality. This is especially the case in Soc IV 9s.
When you relate to attachment triad in the way it applies to 9s specifically
which is in the sense that 9s attach themselves to the external to form their sense of identity; mirroring others, going along with them, blending, adapting, and forsaking yourself in conformity to whatever will maintain good relations with them, and whatever will kick the conflict to the curb...and you fear a loss of closeness to them if you do otherwise.
