Seymour
Vaguely Precise
- Joined
- Sep 22, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
- Enneagram
- 5w4
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
The enneagram workshop this time around was interesting. It organized "type" panels by instinct/instictual-subtype rather than by enneagram type. This gave a very different flavor to the panels, although you could clearly see the influence of type.
The first thing that jumped out was the one-to-one/sexual panels were really intense compared to the self-pres or social panels. Since the panels were grouped by instinct, the one-to-one/sexual panels were like an emotional intensity marathon. The other panels were still meaningful and moving, but the greater intensity of the one-to-ones was really striking.
Secondly, it seemed as though the dysfunction of the type showed up most strongly in the primary instinctual area for most people. So many people struggled with their type most in the area of their strongest instinct. For example, a one-to-one four might have the most drama with their personal relationships, while a social four might have the most drama with groups. This isn't particularly surprising, but was quite pretty clear.
Thirdly, the social panels demonstrated dynamics of the social instinct much more clearly than I had understood before. The social panel participants described how they would track individual state of all the members of a group, and feel distracted when someone withdrew from the group, seemed upset, etc. In most cases social first folks felt compelled to tend to those people who didn't feel included or were upset... in other cases people just felt irritated that they couldn't ignore that information and felt burdened by it.
So it's not that social firsts have to be "social" in a typical sense, and it's definitely not that they necessarily love crowds and parties. Instead, it's a kind of involuntary awareness of the group, including awareness of the state of individuals of the group (on top of awareness of the overall emotional tone of the group). This can lead to their embracing the group or rejecting the group strongly.
This was really helpful for me, personally, since I had long been unsure whether I was self-pres last or social last. (It's pretty clear I'm one-to-one/sexual first, in my five-ish kind of way.) However, I've long described my interactions with small groups as demanding a lot of "processing power" because it's as though my brain spawns a sub-task to monitor each person in the group I'm interacting with. At some point much of my processing power is used up tracking people, and little is left for what I'm actually trying to say or do.
In my case I max out at about 10-15 people... and then people kind of recede except for those I have more one-to-one-ish connections with. The social firsts mostly seemed to think about 40-50 people was their comfortable limit (that seems like an absolutely mind-boggling number to me). So, it seems pretty clear I'm self-pres last and the my social instinct kind of gets overwhelmed and checks out at a relatively small number of people. However, it does help explain my awareness of when people in smaller groups check-out or are unhappy.
I was interested in whether social-firsts identified with that kind of state tracking of groups that the social-firsts on the panel described, or how they would describe their awareness of groups.
The first thing that jumped out was the one-to-one/sexual panels were really intense compared to the self-pres or social panels. Since the panels were grouped by instinct, the one-to-one/sexual panels were like an emotional intensity marathon. The other panels were still meaningful and moving, but the greater intensity of the one-to-ones was really striking.
Secondly, it seemed as though the dysfunction of the type showed up most strongly in the primary instinctual area for most people. So many people struggled with their type most in the area of their strongest instinct. For example, a one-to-one four might have the most drama with their personal relationships, while a social four might have the most drama with groups. This isn't particularly surprising, but was quite pretty clear.
Thirdly, the social panels demonstrated dynamics of the social instinct much more clearly than I had understood before. The social panel participants described how they would track individual state of all the members of a group, and feel distracted when someone withdrew from the group, seemed upset, etc. In most cases social first folks felt compelled to tend to those people who didn't feel included or were upset... in other cases people just felt irritated that they couldn't ignore that information and felt burdened by it.
So it's not that social firsts have to be "social" in a typical sense, and it's definitely not that they necessarily love crowds and parties. Instead, it's a kind of involuntary awareness of the group, including awareness of the state of individuals of the group (on top of awareness of the overall emotional tone of the group). This can lead to their embracing the group or rejecting the group strongly.
This was really helpful for me, personally, since I had long been unsure whether I was self-pres last or social last. (It's pretty clear I'm one-to-one/sexual first, in my five-ish kind of way.) However, I've long described my interactions with small groups as demanding a lot of "processing power" because it's as though my brain spawns a sub-task to monitor each person in the group I'm interacting with. At some point much of my processing power is used up tracking people, and little is left for what I'm actually trying to say or do.
In my case I max out at about 10-15 people... and then people kind of recede except for those I have more one-to-one-ish connections with. The social firsts mostly seemed to think about 40-50 people was their comfortable limit (that seems like an absolutely mind-boggling number to me). So, it seems pretty clear I'm self-pres last and the my social instinct kind of gets overwhelmed and checks out at a relatively small number of people. However, it does help explain my awareness of when people in smaller groups check-out or are unhappy.
I was interested in whether social-firsts identified with that kind of state tracking of groups that the social-firsts on the panel described, or how they would describe their awareness of groups.