Sunflower_Moon
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You've all made great points about why people do this. I understand how they may feel compelled to share their religion with people if they feel it's what they're supposed to do to comply with their dogma, but there's a difference between sharing and forcing. With sharing, it's a polite conversation where information is exchanged, there's respect for one another, and in the end the person chooses whether or not they'd like to convert. On the other hand, with forcing, it seems that people continue to push their beliefs on the other, insisting their way is correct (sometimes overtly disregarding the other person's religion), the voice and facial expression seems commanding, they may be arrogant, ignore or belittle the other person's choice to continue in the religion they're a member of or their set of spiritual beliefs.
I have several experiences that really triggered me to re-evaluate my view of organized religion over the years. I've been disrespected, treated badly, invalidated, and belittled for it. One time was when my husband and I were doing wedding preparations to get married. When a couple we had to meet during the process learned that I believed in a different religion, they asked me if I planned to convert, and when I declined, they asked me why. I gave valid and respectful reasons, and we left it at that for the moment. Maybe half-an-hour later they asked me again if I would consider to convert, and when I declined again, they accused me of being selfish. . .and they were complete strangers to me.
Another time is actually continuous and spans years. My husband's grandmother is devout to her religion, and she keeps insisting that I convert. I kept telling her no politely and told her the religion that I believed in. I've been dealing with infertility for seven years (an extremely emotional and depressing roller coaster), and she would approach me at the end of each visit when my husband and his family weren't around, and she'd tell me to convert to her religion. I declined, and she told me that I would get pregnant if I converted...implying that that the reason I suffer from infertility is because I don't follow her religion. To me that was psychological warfare, manipulation, and possibly a form of emotional abuse since it happened so often and was of two very important issues to me.
These aren't the only experiences that chased me away from organized religion, but two important ones that at least made me start thinking about what religion is, its purpose, how it seems to be at the root of more separation and hatred instead of unity and love. Not everyone in organized religions are bad, but there's a lot that are. I had many other questions and thoughts that maybe I'll post in the future, but I just feel that there's possibly a God, but one without dogma and all of this organized religion stuff. I think it would be much more simple rather than so complex, doesn't focus on how a person dresses, how many times they pray, if they curse or not, etc. I think it's just something very basic that everyone from every culture, race, nationality, gender, sexual orientation, etc. is capable of doing without reading a holy book. . .just focus on being a good person, treating others well and helping them, respecting the environment and balance. . .the main good things that come natural even in nature with animals.
I've noticed that nature and animals seem to get along much better than humans do because they don't have to worry about all of the ways in which humans have found to separate from one another and think one is superior than the other. Animals kill only for food, maybe for mating and territory sometimes (but usually injure). They don't pollute the planet or cause wars, their diets are simple and easy to understand...not filled with ingredients that we can't pronounce or properly metabolize, etc. Either way, I think it's about love, peace, balance, respect, and empathy. Again, too idealistic, and I don't actually expect people to ever change.
I have several experiences that really triggered me to re-evaluate my view of organized religion over the years. I've been disrespected, treated badly, invalidated, and belittled for it. One time was when my husband and I were doing wedding preparations to get married. When a couple we had to meet during the process learned that I believed in a different religion, they asked me if I planned to convert, and when I declined, they asked me why. I gave valid and respectful reasons, and we left it at that for the moment. Maybe half-an-hour later they asked me again if I would consider to convert, and when I declined again, they accused me of being selfish. . .and they were complete strangers to me.
Another time is actually continuous and spans years. My husband's grandmother is devout to her religion, and she keeps insisting that I convert. I kept telling her no politely and told her the religion that I believed in. I've been dealing with infertility for seven years (an extremely emotional and depressing roller coaster), and she would approach me at the end of each visit when my husband and his family weren't around, and she'd tell me to convert to her religion. I declined, and she told me that I would get pregnant if I converted...implying that that the reason I suffer from infertility is because I don't follow her religion. To me that was psychological warfare, manipulation, and possibly a form of emotional abuse since it happened so often and was of two very important issues to me.
These aren't the only experiences that chased me away from organized religion, but two important ones that at least made me start thinking about what religion is, its purpose, how it seems to be at the root of more separation and hatred instead of unity and love. Not everyone in organized religions are bad, but there's a lot that are. I had many other questions and thoughts that maybe I'll post in the future, but I just feel that there's possibly a God, but one without dogma and all of this organized religion stuff. I think it would be much more simple rather than so complex, doesn't focus on how a person dresses, how many times they pray, if they curse or not, etc. I think it's just something very basic that everyone from every culture, race, nationality, gender, sexual orientation, etc. is capable of doing without reading a holy book. . .just focus on being a good person, treating others well and helping them, respecting the environment and balance. . .the main good things that come natural even in nature with animals.
I've noticed that nature and animals seem to get along much better than humans do because they don't have to worry about all of the ways in which humans have found to separate from one another and think one is superior than the other. Animals kill only for food, maybe for mating and territory sometimes (but usually injure). They don't pollute the planet or cause wars, their diets are simple and easy to understand...not filled with ingredients that we can't pronounce or properly metabolize, etc. Either way, I think it's about love, peace, balance, respect, and empathy. Again, too idealistic, and I don't actually expect people to ever change.