Ironically, while there might be bias since Keirsey is an N, it could also mean that he (1) understands those groupings better because he is N and doesn't understand S as well and (2) there's a bias when people automatically read bias into a grouping pattern. What you state here to be your perception wasn't necessarily his perception, and he might have made that pairing for perfectly valid reasons to suit his goals, rather than trying to project that N is deeper in some way; the bias in this instance would be on the part of the reader.
Why is Keirsey's perspective more valuable than anyone elses? That's what everyone keeps implying, and I find it to be mildly annoying and deferent behavior.
Also, why should we assume we have the same goals Keirsey did? What were his goals? What are ours?
Si is one reality. the goal is always to use the known reality as the standard which one applies one judging's function towards. So in this case there is a connection for SJ, at least... they're working towards these common goals, the difference is simply in approach (T is impersonal, F is personal/social).. but they are still having the same groupmind, same goal, same standard, and just working in a complementary fashion to flesh out that picture.
Ni is infinite realities that are rifled through. In this case, the judging function is more much important in terms of determining goal, thus there's a bigger delineation between NTJ and NFJ -- their goals (I think) are more affected by their judging functions.
I can't comment on ESxJ. In those cases, the judging function actually rules, and you'll see a flex in them that you do not see as much in ISxJ -- they will changing their processes to accommodate changes in the external world, whereas ISxJ fights external change by nature using their inward Si image as the standard.
I can see how it would seem like that from the outside. But there's an important connection that's formed from that very ability to rifle through infinite realities. Some of this is probably because you know what Si feels like, but Ni is alien enough that you focus mostly on the kind of goals that are set.
The thing is, Ni is ALSO one reality, in the sense that all NJs have the ability to move to any part of it for a moment (regardless of their goals). It's kind of like a 4th dimensional version of Si, if you will. It's more amorphous, but that doesn't mean it isn't coherent and can't be connected over.
Ti (possibly combined with Si) kind of forces you to take a more solid view of what things are and what they mean, and that makes it a lot harder for you to understand what NJs do.
yes, that is part of the shift we both had to make in order to work better together; we both adjusted to each other's needs.
I'm glad to hear that. It's good that you worked it out.
ok, For my input to you: Any frustration I have had with you in the past is based on (1) rigidity in intuition, you seem to skip over lots of possibilities that might be a better fit than the one you're focusing on and (2) a leap to judgment -- judging of someone's motives and even suggesting they're "bad" -- based on the singular and possibly inaccurate view you were taking.
Well, it's not that I'm skipping over them, so much as it's just not apparent to me that there are other (good) possibilities than the ones I'm focusing on. When they're pointed out, I can't really gauge if they're possible or not, and my inclination is to think that I would have seen how it's possible if it were, or that it's too complicated, not feasible for me because of my specific situation, etc. I don't have a very good sense of what's possible, honestly. That's a weakness I can admit in myself. You seem to think a sense of possibilities and which are realistic is obvious, while to me, they're not.
And number 2... well, that's paranoia. I'd rather be safe than sorry. I have the illusion that it's safer to judge people quickly than it is to risk sitting there and waiting to see what happens. I feel like I'm "leaving myself open to attack," to speak. And you've got to remember... my view SEEMS accurate to me. If there's nothing to suggest that it's inaccurate other than a few people whining/bitching at me while others are agreeing with me, then it seems like it's more likely to be that other group of people that has the misunderstanding.
I react really poorly to that sort of thing, it goes against the spirit of fair play to me; INTP is all about looking for the "probable fit" and trying to keep one's values/feelings OUT of the evaluation process unless they are relevant.
for the record, I get along with you much better than I used to, and I think as you get more life experience and more possibilities become apparent to you, the judgment thing will keep lessening.
Well, thanks, I guess. Umm... I don't appreciate basing things on "life experience," because that sounds like "age." And it's not true that an older person will necessary have a better idea of how life works than a younger one. Oh, wait... you meant "life
experiences," didn't you? That's not a reference to age, that's a reference to how many things a person has done and seen (there are some 17-16 year olds that have seen/done things I haven't). That would be a lot more relevant (IMO) than passage of time... some people live a long life, but never venture outside the worldview or experiences they grew up with.
I hope we can keep on finding ways of understanding each other, and being less annoyed by each other.
