[MENTION=24978]INFPtheQuietOne[/MENTION]:
I read through your threads yesterday to acquaint myself with you. I've been pondering over what to say. First off, I feel your pain and inner frustrations, and I want to send you a hug for that. I think you're very young, and growing, and in pushing against the edges of yourself are coming to terms with some of what you perceive as negative qualities and trying to find an attribution for them. Certainly some of what you write rings true for INFP challenges, especially when your age. Many other people in the world seem more defined, seem to know their "mind" better, seem to navigate the world more easily. Yet as an INFP, you are also wired (once you are able to get out of your own head) to tap into the inner reality of others and you will realize, quite deeply, that there they carry as much pain and burden as you, although in different areas, and more often than not, they carry more with no in-built system to know what to do with it, as you have. When it comes to understanding emotions, we are wired for this.
Ultimately, you're just human. And this is ok.
You are not alone, you are not incapable, you are strong in what you perceive as your weakness. People will come to treasure your tenderness and capacity to love as soon as you are able to fully embrace and love yourself. You are ok, but you have much growing to do, as is the way of this world. None of us enter it fully developed. Take time to develop your strengths rather than focus on what you perceive as weakness and desire to justify your position by attributing it to your INFP typing. Yes, you might cry more, feel shy more, withdraw more. It's ok. Use your extraverted intuition to get engaged with the world and find the delight in interaction. Feel your pain, because you will undoubtedly bump into learning situations, it will happen. I still do and I am much older than you. It is a life-long exploration and start looking at the world from that place of wonder and amazement, I know you feel it inside of you.
I have a little job for you - you might find the enneagram a tool to help you understand your emotional coping strategies, do these tests to start:
Eclectic Energies Enneagram Tests (free) and tell me what you type as here.
SO, yes you made a bunch of threads and have received a bit of allergic reaction to them. Be ok with how that hurts and let's move forward and grow, grow dear little INFP!
