Any thoughts, Mr./Ms. Noon?
If I may, with many disclaimers about this being how I choose to view the system
My anxiety expresses itself in the form of perceiving any good-natured ribbing at my expense as criticism and feeling like I'm about to be thrown to the lions when I enter the workforce and get a job and a place of my own... I also feel pretty guilty when I procrastinate, so I end up not being able to concentrate enough to, say, read a book and have a good time doing so. Due to having less classes this semester, though, I
am able to read manga on weekends - they're a visual medium, so I need to concentrate less and the white noise calms down a bit.
Hm, this sounds like common anxiety. But how central is it for you?
All types have much of their own anxiety, but supposedly the head types are the ones who are really driven by it. Although imo it's not really that they worry about a lot of things all day. Like with type 6, a lot of the profiles disproportionately focus on daily 'catastrophizing', paranoia, reliance on authority or pedantic attention to details because they are so "concerned with security". But I think that the type of security 6s are looking for, especially 6w5, is primarily mental.
In my personal opinion, 6s understand the power of thought, judgment and perception, but in
doubting their own ability as well as the abilities of others to use it properly (or nobly), they center on the dangerous potentialities that can follow its misuse or abuse. They are aware of the distance between the wide and chaotic outer world of supposed facts and assumptions and the limited (in scope, angle, perspective, not in skill) mental world of the individual by comparison, and react by asking many questions, seeking many angles and interpretations, maintaining ambivalence or rocking to and fro between 'decided' and 'undecided' in order to stay on the edge and in the advantage -- sometimes ironically increasing their doubt. They are internally anxious about the unseen and the unforeseen, and about their ability to see and foresee it. And of course in classic head type style, they fear what can happen in the future if they do not secure themselves in these abilities.
Thing is, a 6 can easily be unaware of this deep-seated anxiety or think of it instead as maintaining mental autonomy and thus power; an expression of the 6 that is very common with 6w5 for example. Though all 6s are known for their conflicted relationship with authority (of all kinds) and their mental anxiety is at the base of it. They are either in favor of it, opposed to it, or commonly in favor of
and opposed to it
Hence the phobic and counterphobic phenomenon (which 6s are said to oscillate between depending on environment or other). Phobic 6s, especially with a 7 wing, try sweet and compliant and personable or make themselves appear "smaller" or non-threatening, all like 9w1 in a way, while internally they experience the same 6 dynamic. It's in a way meant to disarm or gain friends to help support them, while a 9w1 likely does it to directly appease their super-ego. However, both of them are concerned with abandonment (loss of union) or harmony in some ways...
I deny my anger. I don't want to express it when I feel angry - what if I'm getting angry at something completely inconsequential? Also, I want to maintain good relationships with people, so I refrain from criticizing or getting angry at them unless they commit arson or something. I'm usually a bit downcast, like I said before, but people who have known me for a long time say they seldom see me get angry, and my ma says I
really suck at getting properly mad, so I just swallow my bitterness.
My ESFJ dad, though, thinks I criticize him way too much - however, he may be just playing the victim card like he does sometimes.
Why do you want to maintain good relationships with people? What do you feel or fear will happen within
yourself if you fail to deny your anger or as a result of anger in general? How have you always felt about anger, or how have you been taught to view anger?
I do think I've still got a long way to go though...
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I'd say, though, my attempt at modesty/humility has more of a Nine or Six element to it. I'm not the caretaker; I'm just someone who tries to be a good friend. 
Your feedback was muchly appreciated! 
