SilkRoad
Lay the coin on my tongue
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I've known this guy for a few years and he's always intrigued me. He's the closest thing to a mad reactionary poet I know. I keep thinking he's an ENTP, but I'm not too sure - he may not be an extrovert. I'm pretty sure he's Intuitive and seems more like an NT than an NF.
A few points:
-He told me once that with girls he's always either totally gentlemanly to the point of being over-reserved, or totally ungentlemanly.
(which I can also imagine as he's a bit of a drinker.) He's always been very gentlemanly with me - in fact, I found when I first met him that if anything he seemed rather shy and he can still give off that vibe. He gives off a somewhat more flirtatious vibe in writing than in person, and a generally more intense vibe. (I think there was a slight attraction between us, I definitely find him attractive, but among other things we have some fairly profound philosophical differences so nothing ever happened.) I also get the impression that he'd be more likely to say something deeply insulting and eloquent in writing, than in person...but then I haven't seen him really drunk.
-He's said that he prefers being outdoors to indoors, walking to motionless, etc. He's a poetry fanatic like me and he leans much more towards poetry recital than towards reading (I'm interested in both but I'm more on the reading side.) He had memorized something like a hundred poems by the time he was in his early twenties... He told me that last time he went to a rowdy party they burned Jimmy Savile in effigy (!) and then he ended up on a table at 3 in the morning reciting Wyatt's 'Whoso List to Hunt.'
-His Facebook updates are rather hilarious as he'll do something like describe an annoying workmate and then say "The potted plant sitting behind me has more in common with me than I do with this subhuman." Or it will spin off into some wild reference to the poetry of William Blake or Chaucer's Canterbury Tales. He's kind of a reactionary in some ways. I think he recently described one of the most powerful modern art galleries here as being a corrosive on modern culture and then compared it unfavourably to the days of Medici patronage. He's an excellent writer and writes really impressive poetry, with a very strong feeling for rhythm and scansion.
-Loves nature.
-Seems to be drawn to rather doomed/dramatic relationships. He said something once about how girls always want to break remote controls over his head, or words to that effect. I know him because I worked with him for a few months and I actually thought he was single for a while as somehow, despite seeming a bit shy and being gentlemanly, he gave off more of a single guy vibe. I was slightly shocked when I found out (at the same time, and at least a few weeks or months in) that not only was he in a relationship but his girlfriend was expecting a baby. They did break up - although only about a year after that - and that impression I'd received also had made me think that the relationship was in some trouble already.
-Experimental mindset, took some pretty hallucinogenic drugs when he was younger at least.
I'm not sure how helpful this is. Having written all this I suspect he's more of an introvert. I also suspect that big-city life can make introverts look more extroverted; that might be partly why people often think I'm a lot more outgoing/extroverted than I am. (You're busy, you're probably out a lot, you know a lot of people.) INTP maybe? Anyway, questions and input welcome.
A few points:
-He told me once that with girls he's always either totally gentlemanly to the point of being over-reserved, or totally ungentlemanly.
(which I can also imagine as he's a bit of a drinker.) He's always been very gentlemanly with me - in fact, I found when I first met him that if anything he seemed rather shy and he can still give off that vibe. He gives off a somewhat more flirtatious vibe in writing than in person, and a generally more intense vibe. (I think there was a slight attraction between us, I definitely find him attractive, but among other things we have some fairly profound philosophical differences so nothing ever happened.) I also get the impression that he'd be more likely to say something deeply insulting and eloquent in writing, than in person...but then I haven't seen him really drunk.-He's said that he prefers being outdoors to indoors, walking to motionless, etc. He's a poetry fanatic like me and he leans much more towards poetry recital than towards reading (I'm interested in both but I'm more on the reading side.) He had memorized something like a hundred poems by the time he was in his early twenties... He told me that last time he went to a rowdy party they burned Jimmy Savile in effigy (!) and then he ended up on a table at 3 in the morning reciting Wyatt's 'Whoso List to Hunt.'
-His Facebook updates are rather hilarious as he'll do something like describe an annoying workmate and then say "The potted plant sitting behind me has more in common with me than I do with this subhuman." Or it will spin off into some wild reference to the poetry of William Blake or Chaucer's Canterbury Tales. He's kind of a reactionary in some ways. I think he recently described one of the most powerful modern art galleries here as being a corrosive on modern culture and then compared it unfavourably to the days of Medici patronage. He's an excellent writer and writes really impressive poetry, with a very strong feeling for rhythm and scansion.
-Loves nature.
-Seems to be drawn to rather doomed/dramatic relationships. He said something once about how girls always want to break remote controls over his head, or words to that effect. I know him because I worked with him for a few months and I actually thought he was single for a while as somehow, despite seeming a bit shy and being gentlemanly, he gave off more of a single guy vibe. I was slightly shocked when I found out (at the same time, and at least a few weeks or months in) that not only was he in a relationship but his girlfriend was expecting a baby. They did break up - although only about a year after that - and that impression I'd received also had made me think that the relationship was in some trouble already.
-Experimental mindset, took some pretty hallucinogenic drugs when he was younger at least.
I'm not sure how helpful this is. Having written all this I suspect he's more of an introvert. I also suspect that big-city life can make introverts look more extroverted; that might be partly why people often think I'm a lot more outgoing/extroverted than I am. (You're busy, you're probably out a lot, you know a lot of people.) INTP maybe? Anyway, questions and input welcome.
