Azure Flame
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So I figure I'll talk about my personal experiences with duality.
The theory itself I believe is correct but only as far as the functions go.
It does not guarantee you will like your dual partner. For instance, as an SLE, I have very little interest in any personality that is of enneagram 1, 3, 7, or 9. Personal experience has tainted these personalities for me, unfortunately.
Past that, if an IEI is a 2, 4, 5 or less frequent, 8, there's a high probability I will at least get along with them.
I recently met an INFJ who is attractive, funny, etc. Very easy to talk to. When she talks, it feels like thunder is rumbling in my chest. Its the wierdest thing but I love it. I don't know what enneagram she is. Seeing as how she's a gymnast I suspect 5 is not a possibility.
Anyway there are still some factors to take into account to make a relationship super dooper. Duality is one of them. If you are duals, it makes it easy to talk to each other.
I also suspect that duality, if given enough effort and time, could make 2 people of unequal self esteem eventually become equals of greater self esteem. Each one brings to the other what they need, and feels fulfilled giving the other what they need. So over time, issues of low self esteem would disappear, provided the two people weren't lazy.
Next thing past that, is enneagram. There are things that get annoying regardless who you are and if your partner's enneagram traits piss you off, that probably isn't going to change.
So in a nutshell, duality isn't perfect. We should differentiate the words dual and soul mate.
A soul mate is that person who fulfills your every need and makes you a better person of similar life values and goals blah blah. A dual is just a person who you could consider your "type."
Me personally, I've only ever been attracted to IEI's my whole life. Everyone thinks I'm crazy or too selective. But I've met them so often that I'm pretty sure they're who I want at this point. I've dated non IEI's before and there's always something lacking that I can't put my finger on. An IEI of christian faith who is physically active will be WAY more attractive to me than one who isn't.
The theory itself I believe is correct but only as far as the functions go.
It does not guarantee you will like your dual partner. For instance, as an SLE, I have very little interest in any personality that is of enneagram 1, 3, 7, or 9. Personal experience has tainted these personalities for me, unfortunately.
Past that, if an IEI is a 2, 4, 5 or less frequent, 8, there's a high probability I will at least get along with them.
I recently met an INFJ who is attractive, funny, etc. Very easy to talk to. When she talks, it feels like thunder is rumbling in my chest. Its the wierdest thing but I love it. I don't know what enneagram she is. Seeing as how she's a gymnast I suspect 5 is not a possibility.
Anyway there are still some factors to take into account to make a relationship super dooper. Duality is one of them. If you are duals, it makes it easy to talk to each other.
I also suspect that duality, if given enough effort and time, could make 2 people of unequal self esteem eventually become equals of greater self esteem. Each one brings to the other what they need, and feels fulfilled giving the other what they need. So over time, issues of low self esteem would disappear, provided the two people weren't lazy.
Next thing past that, is enneagram. There are things that get annoying regardless who you are and if your partner's enneagram traits piss you off, that probably isn't going to change.
So in a nutshell, duality isn't perfect. We should differentiate the words dual and soul mate.
A soul mate is that person who fulfills your every need and makes you a better person of similar life values and goals blah blah. A dual is just a person who you could consider your "type."
Me personally, I've only ever been attracted to IEI's my whole life. Everyone thinks I'm crazy or too selective. But I've met them so often that I'm pretty sure they're who I want at this point. I've dated non IEI's before and there's always something lacking that I can't put my finger on. An IEI of christian faith who is physically active will be WAY more attractive to me than one who isn't.
