Thalassa
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In life it's easier for us to believe we are our drama, or that we have no control over our problems and allow them to consume us; it's easy to prop up the false self via distractions of blowing up your problems, playing up your breakdown, flying through a window, or just fooling with the sound. Everyone has different distractions, and the same person may even have different ones at the same time.
Watching tv to escape your problems or focusing on petty details (fooling with the sound, so to speak) may seem more "well behaved" than outbursts of crime or violence or deviance (flying though a window), or even than being a drama queen (easy to play up your breakdown) or the slightly more subdued nagger and worrier (easy to blow up your problems)...it's all the same. It's all distraction from real human growth, spiritual evolution and peace.
It's more difficult to not allow yourself to believe your worries, problems, human drama, acting out against others, or common distractions than to face them. It's easier to get lost in the drama than to address the underlying "issue." It's easier to distract yourself with fiddling with the radio than to think about why something is happening. People don't want to do the work, they resist change, they resist the real self, and end up depriving themselves of happiness or contentment because they do all these things like its their job or something.
This can be interpreted two ways.
One, if everything is always the same, and you seem to end up in the same shit over and over again, or keep dating the same person with a different face, or feel stuck in your life, or wonder why everyone is ALWAYS this way or that way to you, it's you. It's all inside of you. Your situation won't REALLY ever change until you change on the inside. Same old shit, different day (life's the same except for my shoes). Not because your situation controls you, but because you don't grasp that the change is inside of you.
Two, once you reach enlightenment life will still be life (life's the same I'm moving in stereo), and the answers are all inside of you. You changed, not life. One of my favorite yoga teachers is always saying "everything you need is inside of you." For a long time I didn't get it. I'm like yes but...you need food and water to survive at bare minimum. But then...
Thank you Ric Ocasek and and Greg Hawkes.
I recently applied this to my specific situation with JTG, and all the details made sense, because it's him, and because that's the route I had to learn it, and even the song is a song we both like, we shared an interest in New Wave, all the details were perfect for me to learn a big huge lesson that has very little to actually do with JTG, though.
Which is why I think our paths can completely separate peacefully now. Or if we come back together it will be later, and for a different reason, and it's not something to be focused on or strived for. As far as I'm concerned in this moment, he has already served his purpose in my life.
No man is your friend. No man is your enemy. Every man is your teacher.
