Esoteric Wench
Professional Trickster
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- Dec 20, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 7w8
That's kind of hilarious for you to say "especially" ENFPs when there's of few of them dating or married to ISTJs, on this site.......SJs are the dual of NPs...
Dual in what sense? Per Socionics, an ENFP's dual is ISTP.
Socionics: Dual Relations, Duality, and Dualization
Again, per Socionics ISTJs and ENFPs have CONFLICTING RELATIONS.
Let me quote from the socionics.com Website:
These are relations of constantly developing conflict. Conflicting relations have the worst compatibility between partners among all other relations. However, it does not seem to be so obvious, especially in the earlier stages of development. Conflicting partners appear rather attractive, interesting and with impressive abilities.
Both partners are usually convinced that they can coexist and collaborate quite peacefully, but soon it becomes apparent that something is always going wrong, making their relationship problematic. Both partners may mistakenly think that the cause of these problems is minor and easily fixed and that all they need to do is to show a little bit more effort in understanding their partner.
Unfortunately, these attempts to continue pushing their relationship any further will soon provoke an open conflict between the partners. When conflict starts, partners hit each other with arguments exactly in the direction where they can cause maximum pain. In return, the other partner may counterattack even more aggressively. With every conflict these relations become worse and worse.
Although Conflicting partners show confidence where their partner is unconfident, they are unable to protect and take care of each other's weak points. This regularly brings disagreement and disappointment into these relations. When after several fruitless attempts to establish a stable relationship the partners give up and break the relationship, they feel saved and released.
And, this mirrors my personal experience with ISTJs. My best friend in high school was an ISTJ. And, I still care about her very much but we are constantly in conflict.
You are correct, though, that there are ENFP/ISTJ pairings on this very Website. And, if that makes them happy, more power to them. But the thought of dating an SJ... ugh... I couldn't do it. And, methinks that I'm not the only ENFP on this site to feel this way.
Goes to show that there are limits to any typing predictions.