proteanmix
Plumage and Moult
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It's some sort of misplaced defiance on my part but the more people badmouth Fe and how they can't get along with the ExFJs they know, the more proud I feel to be a Fe dom. It's just humorous to me and I have no clue why.
I have a friend who's always like "damn I hope whoever you end up with is a strong man." I'm not going to lie, sometimes I get a little kick out of putting people through the emotional wringer. My sick amusement comes from the fact that I know know KNOW I'll find a way in. You can be as unresponsive and stoic as you want to be but eventually I'll crack you. I'm like an ant who finds a little crack in your house to get to the sugar. I just really enjoy high emotion. I'm not talking about being emotionally overwrought and histrionic because that's soap opera emotion and it's so This is a Dramatization.
I was watching this PBS documentary called Art 21 and one of the artists, Collier Schorr, is a photographer who enjoys taking pictures of adolescents. She said she especially enjoyed taking pictures of when coaches push the boys to the very edge of their physical endurance, their absolute break point and that's the moment she snaps the shot.
To do this actively instead of passively is very draining to get it and I have to work myself up as well. I have to be a participant so I'm just as susceptible to what's going on as anyone else. I'm not above the fray yanking strings, giddy with mad laughter. Sigh, I've always had a problem with touching things and being nosy.
I think one of the reasons why ExFJs get branded so often with being dramatic is because we need strong emotion to activate our own emotion. I feel like so much of my emotion is outside of me and I draw it in, but to get to my own takes a lot. It's like when I'll tell people you hurt my feelings but they really didn't, I'm just saying they are for whatever reasons I am. It's like I've felt guilty over my lack of feeling guilty or because I feel like I should but I don't. That feeling that I lack an emotion that I feel like I should be feeling is upsetting to me, not the initial lack of emotion itself. I don't feel like my feelings are hurt very often. I have soft spots just like everyone else and I don't particularly try to hide them, but when I expose them if they're mentioned I'm not really hurt by it because I uncovered it and made it public myself. So one I've decided to do that any power over that soft spot is lost. But don't worry, there are plenty more where those came from!
I have a friend who's always like "damn I hope whoever you end up with is a strong man." I'm not going to lie, sometimes I get a little kick out of putting people through the emotional wringer. My sick amusement comes from the fact that I know know KNOW I'll find a way in. You can be as unresponsive and stoic as you want to be but eventually I'll crack you. I'm like an ant who finds a little crack in your house to get to the sugar. I just really enjoy high emotion. I'm not talking about being emotionally overwrought and histrionic because that's soap opera emotion and it's so This is a Dramatization.
I was watching this PBS documentary called Art 21 and one of the artists, Collier Schorr, is a photographer who enjoys taking pictures of adolescents. She said she especially enjoyed taking pictures of when coaches push the boys to the very edge of their physical endurance, their absolute break point and that's the moment she snaps the shot.
It was one of those moments when I think to myself, wow I totally understand what you're doing! I'm a pusher and I've known that about myself for a long time. I push people in their emotions and challenge them. Sometimes it brings us closer together and sometimes it alienates and divides. I don't know how to be any different. Probably my tragic flaw.
To do this actively instead of passively is very draining to get it and I have to work myself up as well. I have to be a participant so I'm just as susceptible to what's going on as anyone else. I'm not above the fray yanking strings, giddy with mad laughter. Sigh, I've always had a problem with touching things and being nosy.
I think one of the reasons why ExFJs get branded so often with being dramatic is because we need strong emotion to activate our own emotion. I feel like so much of my emotion is outside of me and I draw it in, but to get to my own takes a lot. It's like when I'll tell people you hurt my feelings but they really didn't, I'm just saying they are for whatever reasons I am. It's like I've felt guilty over my lack of feeling guilty or because I feel like I should but I don't. That feeling that I lack an emotion that I feel like I should be feeling is upsetting to me, not the initial lack of emotion itself. I don't feel like my feelings are hurt very often. I have soft spots just like everyone else and I don't particularly try to hide them, but when I expose them if they're mentioned I'm not really hurt by it because I uncovered it and made it public myself. So one I've decided to do that any power over that soft spot is lost. But don't worry, there are plenty more where those came from!
