Angry Ayrab
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I have read this in many places and they all seem to say that ENFP males are different than their female counterparts. I thought this would be true for all types but I could be wrong?
Here is my personal observation as a ENFP male growing up. As a kid, it was very important for others to know that I was brave or a badass so I always did the stupidest things you could imagine. I was that one kid that the little sneaky introverted kids always came to and said: I dare you to do blah blah blah blah.... What are you a chicken? My response would be: Screw you, I ain't a chicken, followed by jumping out of the car as it was driving (like in the movies or something equally as stupid).
As much as I hated fights and will admit I was a chicken when it came to them, everyone thought I was the dude to call to a fight just because I ate my fear and kicked ass a couple of times. After the fact that those fights happened, I will admit that I made sure everyone knew that I kicked some major ass with some serious pwnage. I was a chicken that would do anything to prove to others otherwise.
As I grew up and got more mature and entered college etc... (I am still maturing I am sure), I learned to figure out what was important and what was not. Maybe I had my fill of being called a badass and my reputation still precedes, but I do not find it necessary to show off as much as I used too. I have slowly become the straight gay guy of my group with all the girls asking me what I think about such and such and all the little feely touchy things etc...
The only thing that scares me is that I rarely let my feelings out as much as I want too. My feely side is shown only through my diplomacy and how I handle situations and people, but the way I talk looks like I am more of a T than anything. This scares me because after many social interactions I go and kick my self in the ass for saying stupid things like wow, you've been eating, or pointing something out that I shouldn't have. The scariest part is me getting really T in debates (I was a speech and debate captain in high school and undergrad) but I really made my openants look stupid, because I was good at twisting ideas and making others seem irrational etc... but after the fact, I would feel so bad for the person.
I still do like having my ego stroked everyonce in a while, but coming from a family of 8 brothers it is odd for me to hear a compliment so I get real shy and pretend nothing of it, maybe even get uncomfortable when it is given to me.
Wow this just became a series of rambles, but anyway, what are your thoughts on the subject, all perspectives are welcome.
Here is my personal observation as a ENFP male growing up. As a kid, it was very important for others to know that I was brave or a badass so I always did the stupidest things you could imagine. I was that one kid that the little sneaky introverted kids always came to and said: I dare you to do blah blah blah blah.... What are you a chicken? My response would be: Screw you, I ain't a chicken, followed by jumping out of the car as it was driving (like in the movies or something equally as stupid).
As much as I hated fights and will admit I was a chicken when it came to them, everyone thought I was the dude to call to a fight just because I ate my fear and kicked ass a couple of times. After the fact that those fights happened, I will admit that I made sure everyone knew that I kicked some major ass with some serious pwnage. I was a chicken that would do anything to prove to others otherwise.
As I grew up and got more mature and entered college etc... (I am still maturing I am sure), I learned to figure out what was important and what was not. Maybe I had my fill of being called a badass and my reputation still precedes, but I do not find it necessary to show off as much as I used too. I have slowly become the straight gay guy of my group with all the girls asking me what I think about such and such and all the little feely touchy things etc...
The only thing that scares me is that I rarely let my feelings out as much as I want too. My feely side is shown only through my diplomacy and how I handle situations and people, but the way I talk looks like I am more of a T than anything. This scares me because after many social interactions I go and kick my self in the ass for saying stupid things like wow, you've been eating, or pointing something out that I shouldn't have. The scariest part is me getting really T in debates (I was a speech and debate captain in high school and undergrad) but I really made my openants look stupid, because I was good at twisting ideas and making others seem irrational etc... but after the fact, I would feel so bad for the person.
I still do like having my ego stroked everyonce in a while, but coming from a family of 8 brothers it is odd for me to hear a compliment so I get real shy and pretend nothing of it, maybe even get uncomfortable when it is given to me.
Wow this just became a series of rambles, but anyway, what are your thoughts on the subject, all perspectives are welcome.