You just need to put in the effort and time into studying the theory. There's no way around it. No tests, no forum discussions, no asking for stranger on the internet opinions is going to substitute for it. There's no quick fix to finding your type besides reading thoroughly about cognitive functions and types and introspecting. This might take you weeks, even months, but if you're fully on board with figuring out your type once and for all you'll make that investment.
Where to begin figuring out your Socionics type - carefully studying
ENFj and
ESFp profiles, reading about their intertype relations from those same pages, looking at their dichotomies and small groupings, reading about which
information elements they value and the
functional roles those elements fulfill for them (ESFP si SeFi and ENFJ is FeNi).
Recommended for anyone wanting to seriously get into Socionics and MBTI - reading through
the entire text of Chapter 10 of Jung's Psychological types:
Jung's CH 10.