entropie
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They don't have both?
Hit, me punish me, give me animal names and bacon, yes they have both
They don't have both?
Classical economics is practically built around doubting this.![]()
I...feel like science shouldn't have to tell us this. But many people have become selfish and all these days.
I can tell you generosity is not just fulfilling but humbling as well. When you do something for someone in need, it also makes you more thankful for the thing you have now. It tempers desire, humbles you, and gives a fulfillment selfishness and greed cannot give you.
And sure, there is no telling what they will do with what you give, but God isn't going to condemn you if you give a homeless man $20 for dinner, and he buys a wine bottle instead. That will be his sin.
God knows the pure intentions was to help someone.
No wonder I wasn't much good at economics.
I’m going to be honest and say that I don’t get warm, fuzzy feelings from being generous or giving to others. This is the kind of thing that makes me wonder if I’m inferior Fe (ie INTP).
As such, I’m not motivated by an emotional reward. That’s why I won’t do something if I know it doesn’t benefit someone (ie giving money to the bum who uses it for drug/alcohol and then actually enabling their addiction). I prefer to be thoughtful with my time, energy and resources so it ultimately has a positive effect. I mostly give out of principle then, and it’s possibly why I rarely “feel good†about it. I have no doubt that by acting in line with my principles / values that it makes me a happier person. I simply rarely feel an immediate emotional reward. I also don’t tend to act to relieve my own discomfort. I tend to react negatively to any sense of obligation or I don’t feel one. If there is pressure to be generous so you are thought of as a “nice personâ€, I tend to reject that obligation unless it genuinely aligns with what I think is right or good (oh no, I AM so Fi).
I see a lot of people do “nice†things to boost their ego of being a “nice person†and not deeply considering if it really helps someone or if it’s even what someone wants. It’s quite common for the giver to feel a sense of entitlement for having given, perhaps that the recipient owes them or that they now can claim some control/influence over the recipient. Or they may feel “the universe†owes them for their “selflessnessâ€.
Arguably this is not genuine generosity or selfless giving, but it’s extremely common. No matter the result, the person feels good because it’s really about their own ego. I suppose the positive is that their emotional reward moves them to take action a lot, and as the intention is probably good, it may often yield good results.
I can’t say it’s better to be someone who gives and feels no emotional reward. I will do something if I think it is right, that it will yield good results, that it makes sense as far as benefiting someone, etc, but I just don’t feel “movedâ€. It’s a little sad and I used to allow society to make me feel like I’m cold because I don’t feel those warm, fuzzies, but now I see how it’s actually very selfless of me. And I do see the positive effect in the big picture. I am more content overall in life when I act with integrity, so it does come back around to mutually benefit me and the other people.
I’m going to be honest and say that I don’t get warm, fuzzy feelings from being generous or giving to others. This is the kind of thing that makes me wonder if I’m inferior Fe (ie INTP).
As such, I’m not motivated by an emotional reward. That’s why I won’t do something if I know it doesn’t benefit someone (ie giving money to the bum who uses it for drug/alcohol and then actually enabling their addiction). I prefer to be thoughtful with my time, energy and resources so it ultimately has a positive effect. I mostly give out of principle then, and it’s possibly why I rarely “feel good†about it. I have no doubt that by acting in line with my principles / values that it makes me a happier person. I simply rarely feel an immediate emotional reward. I also don’t tend to act to relieve my own discomfort. I tend to react negatively to any sense of obligation or I don’t feel one. If there is pressure to be generous so you are thought of as a “nice personâ€, I tend to reject that obligation unless it genuinely aligns with what I think is right or good (oh no, I AM so Fi).
I see a lot of people do “nice†things to boost their ego of being a “nice person†and not deeply considering if it really helps someone or if it’s even what someone wants. It’s quite common for the giver to feel a sense of entitlement for having given, perhaps that the recipient owes them or that they now can claim some control/influence over the recipient. Or they may feel “the universe†owes them for their “selflessnessâ€.
Arguably this is not genuine generosity or selfless giving, but it’s extremely common. No matter the result, the person feels good because it’s really about their own ego. I suppose the positive is that their emotional reward moves them to take action a lot, and as the intention is probably good, it may often yield good results.
I can’t say it’s better to be someone who gives and feels no emotional reward. I will do something if I think it is right, that it will yield good results, that it makes sense as far as benefiting someone, etc, but I just don’t feel “movedâ€. It’s a little sad and I used to allow society to make me feel like I’m cold because I don’t feel those warm, fuzzies, but now I see how it’s actually very selfless of me. And I do see the positive effect in the big picture. I am more content overall in life when I act with integrity, so it does come back around to mutually benefit me and the other people.