STEM fields are all grounded in the scientific method, more specifically in objective evidence and reproducible results. Subjectivity and emotion have no place in this part of the process. Gravity is gravity, for example, regardless of how we personally feel about it, and it is the same for everyone. This perspective, however, is often taken too far in that it can be expected across the board. Emotion and subjectivity can be viewed as signs of weakness or inappropriate/unwelcome demeanor, even outside the process of examining evidence and drawing conclusions. It can make it look like you need a certain kind of personality to do well in science, the kind typically associated with men and not women. When people - men or women - try to mold themselves to that expectation, they can cut themselves off from subjectivity and emotion when its use is warranted. This could be when dealing with staff or colleagues, when deciding what to work on and why, or even when finding personal meaning and fulfillment in your work. As I mentioned, the scientific method is rooted in objectivity, typically viewed as a masculine quality. The conduct of science and engineering, though, is inescapably collaborative, pointing toward more typically feminine interpersonal qualities. We need both. Women entering STEM fields are not "trying to be men" when they follow scientific method. Nor should they - or men - have to check their more subjective qualities at the door when they report to work. Each has its place, and both are essential.