INTJMom
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God really blessed me when he gave me an ENFJ son.
Yesterday evening while I standing at the kitchen sink peeling potatoes for dinner, my son said a very sweet thing that made me cry. So many times when my kids say something sweet, I usually think, I'm going to remember this for the rest of my life, only to find out, when I try to remember it, that I can't recall the exact details anymore, and I'm always disappointed. So this time, I went to my room and immediately wrote it down in my journal. Kind of late to be developing good habits since my youngest is 15, but oh well.
Besides my ENFJ son and me, there are 3 IST's in the family. My ISTJ daughter calls me every evening on her way home from work to ask me what is for dinner. So she called and began to gripe about "hamburger again?!" and I told her the meal plan for the next several days. When I got off the phone, my ENFJ 15 year old son who had overheard the phone conversation said to me, "I just realized how lucky we are to have you! Planning our meals days in advance... making sure we get balanced meals and not too much of one thing. That's probably why I'm so healthy."
It wasn't so much the words as the sentiment that meant so much to me. It wasn't the appreciation so much as the validation of the care I take to do right for my family. I felt very loved. I couldn't contain my tears of joy in that moment, but I didn't let him or my husband see them either, because they are wont to make fun of me for crying so easily.
Frankly, the IST's in the family make far too much fun of me. So I am extra thankful for the positive feedback ENFJ son God gave me, who has been a gift, right from the very start.
Yesterday evening while I standing at the kitchen sink peeling potatoes for dinner, my son said a very sweet thing that made me cry. So many times when my kids say something sweet, I usually think, I'm going to remember this for the rest of my life, only to find out, when I try to remember it, that I can't recall the exact details anymore, and I'm always disappointed. So this time, I went to my room and immediately wrote it down in my journal. Kind of late to be developing good habits since my youngest is 15, but oh well.
Besides my ENFJ son and me, there are 3 IST's in the family. My ISTJ daughter calls me every evening on her way home from work to ask me what is for dinner. So she called and began to gripe about "hamburger again?!" and I told her the meal plan for the next several days. When I got off the phone, my ENFJ 15 year old son who had overheard the phone conversation said to me, "I just realized how lucky we are to have you! Planning our meals days in advance... making sure we get balanced meals and not too much of one thing. That's probably why I'm so healthy."
It wasn't so much the words as the sentiment that meant so much to me. It wasn't the appreciation so much as the validation of the care I take to do right for my family. I felt very loved. I couldn't contain my tears of joy in that moment, but I didn't let him or my husband see them either, because they are wont to make fun of me for crying so easily.
Frankly, the IST's in the family make far too much fun of me. So I am extra thankful for the positive feedback ENFJ son God gave me, who has been a gift, right from the very start.
