[ENTP] ''only friends'' relationship between male and female

[SerengetiBetty]

What is your opinion about male and female ''only friends'' kind of relationship and why and do you try to avoid that?
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i can only do it if i'm not sexually attracted to the guy. i have several friends like this and it's been working just fine for several years. if i'm secretly thinking about getting in his pants then it's not an option mainly because i can't keep secrets

 

[OrangeAppled]

Not quite the point I was going to make. I was more trying to hit at the point that sometimes setting strict boundaries can limit a relationship more than said boundaries were initially designed to.

The point I am making is some men have the inability to see women as anything but potential sexual/romantic partners. What makes a woman different from a man for platonic friendship if there is no physical attraction to get in the way?

 

[tcda]

The point I am making is some men have the inability to see women as anything but potential sexual/romantic partners. What makes a woman different from a man for platonic friendship if there is no physical attraction to get in the way?

As a man, I think like this, and I reckon most men (not all) think the same: How do you know you will never be physically attracted to someone? Only if you are either not interested in their geneder, or find them repulsive (which is pretty unlikely in the case of a friendship).

Fact is men don't bring in that strict divide of "friend" vs "potential partner".

Once I realized women work differently, I made an effort to avoid ever getting put in the "friend" category. Trouble is most men don't realize that women employ that divide.

 

[JustHer]

It's possible, just sort of rare. Try finding someone you have activity relations with (I think that's an ESFJ for you). I have an ESFP buddy and it's actually entirely platonic yet really awesome