niggling spawn-related worries

[cafe]

Report cards today. Beast Boy's weekly behavior reports have been mostly Bs lately, so I was surprised to see the note in his report card that his "behavior is declining. He has recently started to disregard directions." Ruh roh.

I'm starting to be pretty sure he's an ETJ. He sometimes has some impulse control problems, but he hasn't been belligerent, insensitive maybe, but not belligerent.

The thing I'm worried about is that both my sons are smart, I don't know exactly how smart, but definitely smarter than average and both of them are logical.

This means they are going to eventually realize that they are smarter than a lot of the adults around them including their teachers. Beast Boy has already begun to realize how illogical a lot of the rules and other things at school are.

In addition to both of them being Ts, they have autism, so they are even less inclined to comply for the sake of harmony than they might otherwise be.

It hasn't been a huge deal yet, but I have expected we wouldn't make it through middle school without some problems. I kinda hoped it wouldn't start in fourth grade. Maybe it hasn't and I'm borrowing trouble.

If it has, I'm dreading dealing with it. Part of the problem is going to be that a lot of times they are going to be totally right and I'm going to agree with them, but I'm still going to have to convince them to comply.

Not looking forward to that. Not one bit.

I have a meeting this week with Beast Boy's speech therapist, who is also his 'teacher of record.' Hopefully between she, his classroom teacher, and I, we can get to the bottom of this and figure out what's going on. I'm hoping it's just a misunderstanding. Sometimes he misses cues or forgets not to blurt out whatever he's thinking. I can hope, right?

 

[Atomic Fiend]

...Ah strong willed kids.

I love them, wouldn't want to watch over them though...

 

[cafe]

I talked to his teacher today. Basically, he gets going being loud and silly and she can't get him to shut up. He's been doing it at home, too, so no nasty surprises there. It is seriously annoying and I can just imagine how fun it is to deal with when you have a whole classroom to handle.

I asked her about it in front of Beast Boy so he wouldn't be able to play dumb and we'd all be on the same page. I told him in front of her that I needed him to figure out some way to deal with the problem because if he didn't I was going to help him by giving him some consequences to remember and motivate him like extra chores or being grounded from his video games.

I know it's partly an impulse control thing, but I think if he wants to he can work on it. He's an exuberant kid, so I'm not expecting miracles, but he can't be doing that.

Edit: I wonder if I have ever told her about the sign language 'no' trick. Somehow, seeing the sign language sign for no gets both his and Cyborg's attention and compliance faster than any amount or volume of spoken words. I will have to remind myself to tell her.