Here are some of the milder ones:
"You must stop calling me and screaming into phone at me when you are drunk."
"Please stop bad mouthing K's wife I feel uncomfortable put in the middle of this. If you want her to be more open to contact with you, my honest advice is to start being more civil to her, but leave me out of it."
"Please stop constantly critcizing your son. I am his wife and I get tired of hearing it. Have some respect and stop using me as a dumping ground for your disappointments with him."
I can see that the words you use are very different than the words I would use. It seems (and I hate to say this because I don't want to stereotype anyone) that INFP's in general are very poetic and flowery in their speech even when they are upset and "telling someone off" whereas INFJ's are very blunt (and even sarcastic) even when we are telling someone how much we love them (which is generally expressed very differently than INFP's).
Here is my totally off the cuff list of how the different types "tell someone off":
INTJ: you are interfering with my radon particle scanner!
INTP: what do you mean I can only check out 100 books!!!???
INFP: I don't think you should speak to me that way.
INFJ: You'd better be nice to me or I'll bite you!
ISTJ: When I tell you to jump, you say, "how high?"
ISFJ: Oh, don't mind me, I always have a heart attack after dinner.
ISFP: You cannot label me. I will not have it.
ISTP: What are you so upset about?
ENTJ: I am the smartest one. It's been proven. Don't even bother.
ENTP: I love people. What an idiot! Did you see that?
ENFP: I don't think you really like me. Do you?
ENFJ: Why do I have to do everything around here? It's not fair!
ESFJ: I don't trust you. Now tell me why I should.
ESFP: I'm done with you. No, come back. No, I am done with you. Wait!
ESTP: Talk to the hand, baby, talk to the hand.
ESTJ: Why would you think you could possibly know anything I don't know?