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my sister is a mystery to me, please help!

poppy58

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I hardly know anything about her. She doesn’t talk about her feelings/personal life. She only talks to my mom, when she’s really overwhelmed and stressed. So here are some facts about her:

She used to write stories/poems.
She has an eye for photography. She sees the details, the angles, the composition. (She takes ages uploading a picture to instagram. :))
She likes cooking.
She’s a perfectionist.
She’s good at accessing people. She knows how to motivate/work (sometimes manipulate) people. But she doesn’t show an interest in interacting with people (maybe it's just me).
She’s good at reasoning. She always beats me at it.
Her room is really really really messy. But once she starts cleaning, she doesn’t stop until every little corner is clean.
She likes fashion, I think she’s kindda a hipster.

Growing up she didn’t like sports/exercising. Now that her boyfriend is sporty she does it too.
She does this funny thing sometimes. To decide if she wants to try a food or if she is hungry, she imagines eating it first.  According to her food has deep or high flavor.

When she’s really stressed about work, she curls up on my moms couch and her emotions come out. She’s like a little kid, needs attention and caring, but nothing’s good enough.

That’s all I can think about her without going into speculations so feel free to ask questions.
 

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she sounds a lot like me: INFJ.

Yep INFJ.
 

poppy58

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Thank you both for your replys!
I feel, that she is colder than an INFJ. My mom is INFJ and I can read her emotions easily, like from a mile away. I figured it's because we are both feelers. I figured my sister must be a thinker, because I don't understand her and I feel that I can't connect to her.
 

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Thank you both for your replys!
I feel, that she is colder than an INFJ. My mom is INFJ and I can read her emotions easily, like from a mile away. I figured it's because we are both feelers. I figured my sister must be a thinker, because I don't understand her and I feel that I can't connect to her.


Well,what's your type? She could have unhealthy Fe.
 

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Thank you both for your replys!
I feel, that she is colder than an INFJ. My mom is INFJ and I can read her emotions easily, like from a mile away. I figured it's because we are both feelers. I figured my sister must be a thinker, because I don't understand her and I feel that I can't connect to her.

I don't think your mom would be an INFJ. Nothing personal. INFJ's tend to mimic the outward persona of INTJ's. Not to the t of course, but definitely not a mile away unless her life is intolerable.
 

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Thank you both for your replys!
I feel, that she is colder than an INFJ. My mom is INFJ and I can read her emotions easily, like from a mile away. I figured it's because we are both feelers. I figured my sister must be a thinker, because I don't understand her and I feel that I can't connect to her.

INFJ's aren't open with those she may not trust, again nothing personal, but don't worry too much about it and maybe if you attempt to talk to her more, you may get answers.

What's your type?
 

poppy58

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I don't think your mom would be an INFJ. Nothing personal. INFJ's tend to mimic the outward persona of INTJ's. Not to the t of course, but definitely not a mile away unless her life is intolerable.

I'm ISFP.
My mom is very Ni, and she always wants to please people, she takes very long to make up her mind and likes to plan. I meant by reading her emotions, that when she's stressed or hurt, i feel the stress radiating off of her, it effects me too, I feel the nervousness in my guts.
I read somewhere that unhelthy INFJs can have like a martyr complex.

How does Ni work with INTJs? It seems to me that it would be more verbal (easier to see) with INFJs, because of aux Fe.
I don't know what to talk about with her, I don't want to invade her privacy by asking her personal questions. We just spent two days together hiking, and she only initiated one conversation with me, and it was more like she was thinking out loud.
 

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INFJs can be like a chameleon when it comes to feelings, they will feel it but they will sometimes choose not to show it.
 
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