zago
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Recently I believe I have been letting my dominant functions get out of control and my tertiary and inferior go completely unconscious. Not a pleasant experience, let me tell you. As a perceiver, you begin to look for "the perfect wave" in surfer speak, and let way too many decent ones pass. I became very unconscious of my emotions and started going crazy. So I think I need to consciously implement certain minimums in my life to stay humble and out of the clouds.
Si: Believe it or not, I had BIG trouble doing all of these things in recent months. Seriously, I am a wreck right now. I have been living on maybe 1 or 2 showers a week, eating nothing but candy, living in filth, going to bed at 9 AM, waking up at 6 PM, and napping sometime between. The only thing I did a decent job of keeping up with was my dental hygiene. That is an absolute with me.
Fe: This one is really the hardest for me, although Si is very hard too. I wish I could talk to people more easily. I hope improving Si will at least provide a foundation for that.
Now for some Do Nots with Ti and Ne:
And with that... maybe I'll go back to the pool for a bit. Things to think about! Give me your thoughts on this.
Si: Believe it or not, I had BIG trouble doing all of these things in recent months. Seriously, I am a wreck right now. I have been living on maybe 1 or 2 showers a week, eating nothing but candy, living in filth, going to bed at 9 AM, waking up at 6 PM, and napping sometime between. The only thing I did a decent job of keeping up with was my dental hygiene. That is an absolute with me.
- Take shower daily, keep nails clipped, hair cut, smell nice, etc.
- Keep house clean - spend 20 minutes a day cleaning and every once in a while, do a more thorough clean.
- Brush teeth twice a day, floss once.
- Exercise in moderation, roughly 30-60 minutes 3 or 4 times a week, with cardio and strength.
- Keep reasonable sleep hours. Try to avoid big daytime naps. Don't lay around in bed awake for hours.
- Eat substantial meals, snacks in moderation. Try to eat breakfast.
- Keep a daily planner.
- Keep a minimal daily log.
- Pay bills on time.
- Have a few hobbies and special interests.
- Don't spend excessive time on computer or watching TV.
- Look semi-presentable. No wrinkled clothes, no stains, nothing insanely casual.
- Procrastinate less.
- Try to finish what you start.
- Have hobbies, work on them consistently.
- Maintain stability, appreciate the past instead of pretending it doesn't exist. Setting anchor in my community, etc.
- Don't be afraid to fit in and do what other people are doing.. follow major trends in society like going to college etc.
Fe: This one is really the hardest for me, although Si is very hard too. I wish I could talk to people more easily. I hope improving Si will at least provide a foundation for that.
- Greet people, ask how they are doing. Introduce self if appropriate.
- It is ok to ask people small talk questions. If they aren't interested in talking, it is ok to stop.
- Try to remember birthdays and holidays.
- Let people know what you are feeling if possible
- Keep in touch with friends and family, go to social functions and participate in activities with friend and family if you have nothing else to do.
- Avoid insulting people (especially for liking sports, religion, country music, dumb political views, etc.) or overanalyzing them and making harsh judgments.
- Try to keep up with culture.. skim the news once in a while, and try to watch a popular TV show or movie.
- Make an effort to meet and get to know new people
- Don't ignore texts.
- Try to be friendly to relatives (lol)
- It is ok to uphold some traditions like going on occasional dates or participating in ceremonies
- Try to participate in group conversations instead of sitting in and silently judging people
- Ask for others' input
- Try not to be weirded out by babies, children, and the elderly.
- Offer to lend a helping hand, and don't be afraid to ask others for help.
- Give to charity.
- Showing appreciation
- Avoid sensitive subjects in conversation.
- Talk about what you did that day, even if not particularly profound.
- Make sure everyone is included.
- Befriending neighbors.
- Give the occasional sincere compliment.
- Offer people drinks and food if they come over.
Now for some Do Nots with Ti and Ne:
- Do not spend excessive time reading informational text with the intention of "unifying" life, esp. if chores aren't done!
- Watch out for going into la-la land with religious, scientific, or some combination thereof theories.
- Watch out for sitting and analyzing people too much while you could be doing something.
- Watch out for thinking everyone is wrong about everything.
- Try not to get out-of-context for its own sake with tastes
- Catch self when sitting and thinking about strategies when could be doing other things.
- Don't spend excessive time on the internet or forums, especially if you find yourself getting into heated arguments or refreshing the page every 5 seconds looking for new replies.
- Do not become a know-it-all, always remember there is vastly more to learn in life.
And with that... maybe I'll go back to the pool for a bit. Things to think about! Give me your thoughts on this.
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