Frosty
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Ok. So I said I was gunna- and I have been putting it off out of a sense of uh- 'the importance of being 'self sufficient' in the likes of these things but... I am curious so I thought I would throw some stuff out. And Ill try to be as unbiased as this allows- I mean I cant be throwing out a bunch of Se shit if he doesnt show much Se(just an example function)- that wouldnt be heh 'equitable'. Or something. Anyways- ignore the babbling and onwards!
Ok so my brother is interesting to me. Some general things about him- always, always, he has had a short temper. People have called us like 'night and day'- because I rarely lose my cool and most things just sort of- I don't give a shit about, but my brother is different. He cares about the weirdest fucking things I swear to god.
Ok, so when we were kids- we were very close. I was the leader-because I was older and a tiny bit louder- and he was 'my follower'. To be completely honest. I mean thats how that stuff tends to work though so it wasnt like it was inherently fucked up or anything- one person tends to be more dominant and yeah- just is what it is in ANY relationship. But anyways. We were really close. I was there- I was there whenever he lost his cool. Just putting a hand on his shoulder and saying his name or something was (and still is) enough to calm him down.
OK(heh they are all gunna start with 'ok' now-) Things that piss him off/pissed him off. Well once he hit puberty power dynamics sort of started to change I suppose- or he let his voice out to try to change them. Suddenly what was just 'annoying' became nearly unbearable. He was on me for everything. Like a third- VERY AUTHORITARIAN- parent. I reach over the table instead of asking him to pass something- furious. I wear his jacket for a minute to go get the mail or something- huge deal. I talk to loud on the phone, I wear pajamas too frequently, I sneeze too loudly, my laugh is annoying him, I look at him funny- It could be ANYTHING- and he freaks out- raging mad, red in the face, yelling, calling me names, shoving and hitting(occasional- and I gave it right back). Was insane. And probably just his way of dealing with things- if he could make everyone see that I was the bad one then they would leave him alone. He needed an outlet somewhere. Anyways not sure why Im including that- my brother is really- he really is- a good person. Growing up was/is just hard sometimes
Ok, anyways. So he was and still is bigger on rules than I am. Hes more cautious. Hes more... open with his affections. He is more about doing 'what is appropriate' than I am- following rules no matter how arbitrary-(this was always a big thing with us- 'teacher said you have to take the pass before going to the bathroom"- "Why should I do that- teacher is hardly even conscious, they dont care- and what good is having the pass going to do for me?' 'Why are you so stubborn?' 'Why are you so bossy?' Pretty much how things went between us- and ha- still do to an extent.
Hm Im not doing a good job of this. Ill just list some things I suppose.
He has a vast array of knowledge on things- fucking huge store of information. And it isnt all factoids- ask him to explain something and he is a wonderful and adaptable orator. Would be a very good teacher- is INCREDIBLY clear and thorough- and enthusiastic- about whatever it is he is trying to tell you.
Hes sweet. He really is. Hes good with all my little cousins, and he is ALWAYS willing to lend an extra hand to anyone who needs it(frequently me- hes a FOOT TALLER THAN ME, he comes in handy). He volunteers to help out in things and he doesnt usually say a word about it. He is more responsible than I am- probably- mm well in some ways- in others probably not- but in several notable ways. Hes a wonderful navigator. Has a better memory for things than I do usually-(what is needed- what we need to do- he is less fazed by 'goal oriented' talk than I am).
He doesnt know when to shut up. He always has to WIN every argument- even ones where he knows that he cant- even those that are trivial. He has a huge need to be 'right'.
Smart. Hes smart. Was the top scorer in some science test back in middle school- outscored his entire grade- got an award and everything. Got like 98% on this early highschool level science test or something freakish. Got 'the highest score of the day' on his college math placement exam. Math and science is definitely his thing. But. He considers me smarter than him(which is probably why hes always been so- critical of me- insecurity) But well. I mean some ways sure- some ways no way- but generally he does come off smarter than I do(encyclopedic knowledge- and very technical stuff at times- I just dont usually bother unless Im interested enough- he can SEEM a bit showoffy- but thats just him being him)- though I consistently do better on tests- standardized and otherwise. *brags*
I can really talk to him. About anything. I mean, sometimes I need to explain more than Id like(I hate explaining, Im rambly and I generally just destroy whatever it is I am trying to explain)- but usually he can just sort of jump on my plane- something not many people generally seem very willing to always do. Dad is the same way with this- three of us can usually have pretty good and interesting talks about whatever- time travel, faith, happiness, whatever. Mom doesnt much take to these.
Anyways- hes mellowed out quite a bit, and although I DO have some ideas for his type- this has sort of- it sort of still, throws a bit of a wrench in there for me.
This is kind of long so I wont expect much but I thought Id just make this thread
Ok so my brother is interesting to me. Some general things about him- always, always, he has had a short temper. People have called us like 'night and day'- because I rarely lose my cool and most things just sort of- I don't give a shit about, but my brother is different. He cares about the weirdest fucking things I swear to god.
Ok, so when we were kids- we were very close. I was the leader-because I was older and a tiny bit louder- and he was 'my follower'. To be completely honest. I mean thats how that stuff tends to work though so it wasnt like it was inherently fucked up or anything- one person tends to be more dominant and yeah- just is what it is in ANY relationship. But anyways. We were really close. I was there- I was there whenever he lost his cool. Just putting a hand on his shoulder and saying his name or something was (and still is) enough to calm him down.
OK(heh they are all gunna start with 'ok' now-) Things that piss him off/pissed him off. Well once he hit puberty power dynamics sort of started to change I suppose- or he let his voice out to try to change them. Suddenly what was just 'annoying' became nearly unbearable. He was on me for everything. Like a third- VERY AUTHORITARIAN- parent. I reach over the table instead of asking him to pass something- furious. I wear his jacket for a minute to go get the mail or something- huge deal. I talk to loud on the phone, I wear pajamas too frequently, I sneeze too loudly, my laugh is annoying him, I look at him funny- It could be ANYTHING- and he freaks out- raging mad, red in the face, yelling, calling me names, shoving and hitting(occasional- and I gave it right back). Was insane. And probably just his way of dealing with things- if he could make everyone see that I was the bad one then they would leave him alone. He needed an outlet somewhere. Anyways not sure why Im including that- my brother is really- he really is- a good person. Growing up was/is just hard sometimes
Ok, anyways. So he was and still is bigger on rules than I am. Hes more cautious. Hes more... open with his affections. He is more about doing 'what is appropriate' than I am- following rules no matter how arbitrary-(this was always a big thing with us- 'teacher said you have to take the pass before going to the bathroom"- "Why should I do that- teacher is hardly even conscious, they dont care- and what good is having the pass going to do for me?' 'Why are you so stubborn?' 'Why are you so bossy?' Pretty much how things went between us- and ha- still do to an extent.
Hm Im not doing a good job of this. Ill just list some things I suppose.
He has a vast array of knowledge on things- fucking huge store of information. And it isnt all factoids- ask him to explain something and he is a wonderful and adaptable orator. Would be a very good teacher- is INCREDIBLY clear and thorough- and enthusiastic- about whatever it is he is trying to tell you.
Hes sweet. He really is. Hes good with all my little cousins, and he is ALWAYS willing to lend an extra hand to anyone who needs it(frequently me- hes a FOOT TALLER THAN ME, he comes in handy). He volunteers to help out in things and he doesnt usually say a word about it. He is more responsible than I am- probably- mm well in some ways- in others probably not- but in several notable ways. Hes a wonderful navigator. Has a better memory for things than I do usually-(what is needed- what we need to do- he is less fazed by 'goal oriented' talk than I am).
He doesnt know when to shut up. He always has to WIN every argument- even ones where he knows that he cant- even those that are trivial. He has a huge need to be 'right'.
Smart. Hes smart. Was the top scorer in some science test back in middle school- outscored his entire grade- got an award and everything. Got like 98% on this early highschool level science test or something freakish. Got 'the highest score of the day' on his college math placement exam. Math and science is definitely his thing. But. He considers me smarter than him(which is probably why hes always been so- critical of me- insecurity) But well. I mean some ways sure- some ways no way- but generally he does come off smarter than I do(encyclopedic knowledge- and very technical stuff at times- I just dont usually bother unless Im interested enough- he can SEEM a bit showoffy- but thats just him being him)- though I consistently do better on tests- standardized and otherwise. *brags*
I can really talk to him. About anything. I mean, sometimes I need to explain more than Id like(I hate explaining, Im rambly and I generally just destroy whatever it is I am trying to explain)- but usually he can just sort of jump on my plane- something not many people generally seem very willing to always do. Dad is the same way with this- three of us can usually have pretty good and interesting talks about whatever- time travel, faith, happiness, whatever. Mom doesnt much take to these.
Anyways- hes mellowed out quite a bit, and although I DO have some ideas for his type- this has sort of- it sort of still, throws a bit of a wrench in there for me.
This is kind of long so I wont expect much but I thought Id just make this thread