How exactly the four non-natural functions are used is quite a matter of debate.
To put it as succinctly as possible, we find it very hypocritical that Fs:
A) Have no problems pointing out all the ways Thinkers could learn to improve upon their personal reasoning, and
B) Don't seem to believe there's anything at all they can or should do to work on their impersonal reasoning.
It's as if you think Fi is just automatically superior in all situations. You see our inferior Feeling skills and treat us like children because your Fi doesn't see any reason you should have to bother learning anything about Ti and/or assumes you understand it fully (trust me, you don't.)
I get tired of hearing, "You are such an insensitive jerk who really needs to learn to pay attention to people's feelings...but ME? I can't possibly remove my emotions from my viewpoint, why...that'd just be removing the very essence of who I am! You Ts should really grow up and learn to act more like Fs though. kthx"
And my GOD, I don't even have enough exaggerated words to properly express how frustrating that is.
See SciVo in the "Simulated Hijacks..." thread. Look at the end where he:
A) Declares that I'm an emotional child in need of learning about emotional intelligence,
B) Declares that having a math degree means he knows everything there is to know about the Thinking perspective, and
C) Considers the Feeling perspective to be obviously and objectively superior.
Why should he bother learning anything about an obviously inferior system that he clearly already knows everything there is to know about?
And self-improvement is supposed to be high on Fi's value list! How the hell do you communicate with someone who won't acknowledge, and moreover ISN'T EVEN AWARE, that he could possibly learn anything from your value system or that his isn't 100% objectively the best?
That sounds like the definition of closed-mindedness to me. At least thinkers ACKNOWLEDGE our Feeling deficiency from time to time...half the time it seems Feelers aren't even aware that there's anything of value to be learned from Thinking, which is rather a bit distressing for those of us Thinkers who are trying to better understand Feeling.
You need to meet us half way.
Is that really how it seems? Feelers and Fi doms are subjective and close-minded?
Sorry Sim, but I can't engage in this 'Fi' conversation with you or anyone else because I take things too
personally LOL. Meaning irl, I use a bunch of different functions at once and I think I am
hella reasonable. I don't think I make decisions on "pure Fi" or pure anthing. I am naturally accepting of people and "big picture". I get along with 99% of people irl (the other 1% I simply do not like) and get comments about this not infrequently. And yes, I have a lot of thinker friends and acquaintances, especially INTPs.
Basically, I have
no idea how other Fi users use their Fi irl. I only know how
I engage people. I am learning just as much about other Fi users as you are (probably more

) by being on this forum.
I'm not going to take it upon myself to speak for other Feelers or Fi doms because frankly, I don't know how they operate and I can't speak for them. I can only speak for myself but as you have made it clear in the past, you are not interested in how Cze Cze (the outlier!!! HA. HA. HA.) operates or thinks. (I am SO. HURT. Sim.
SO. HURT.)
You're interested in the aggregate of "feelers". That's cool. I hope you are keeping it a chart though 'cause once you get a lot of responses it'll be hard to keep track of them.
So I'm pretty much just gonna lay back and observe from this point forward and probably just jump in if I think some (or one) thinker(s) seem to have a crusade against "feelers".
And yes, I agree that people in general, regardless of their type need to bend a little.
If you don't learn to compromise and take things with a grain of salt and look at things from other POVs you have more problems in life. Of course, going too much to the other side and
accomodating everyone will also 'cause problems.
Personally though, the only interpersonal issues I have are with people I date. And they happen to be fellow NFs 99%

Or my family. But
"everyone" has problems with their family and I honestly think a lot of that lies outside of personality type.
Um, that is all.
Oh wait -
PS I will say though, when I do have problems with people irl I don't know what their motivation or thinking is and sometimes I don't care. I just know they pissed me off or I think they're tacky. The end. Period. Is there really any need to bend over
backwards for
complete strangers? I don't hold it against anyone or try to give them a hard time, I just know I'm done with them.
PPS When I say "you are acting like you are upset" it means exactly that. It is an opportunity for you to explain yourself. It also means, "You are raising your voice and I do not like the tone you are taking with me. Change it or this conversation is over." I tell people that, too.
PPS I don't think Thinkers necessarily have problems with 'feeling', I think that a lot of thinkers have problem socially integrating themselves because they are so oblivious and dismissive of social etiquette and norms.
This doesn't bother me at all as long as they are aware of it. If you don't care, you don't care

(I have 'feeler' friends who are like this and a few friends who can be rude as hell - but they know it and own it and accept the consequences. I don't have a problem irl with social awkwardness or being "rough around the edges" or being temperemental or unemotional or extremely blunt any of those things. They don't affect me
for the most part.
HOWEVER - what bothers me is when you act like an ass and then cry like a baby about how people don't understand you and somehow you're operating on some high cerebral/spiritual/etc. level and other people just can't "reach" it.
Nah, they understand you.
They understand that you are cognizant of what you are doing and saying and you
choose to behave "poorly" but after the fact you wanna brush it off or rationalize it or have "take back-sies". That's the ONLY issue I have and I think ENTPs are prone to this. I can't
stand that kind of behavior in general. Don't just act like you're grown,
be grown. That's where I find your "meet people halfway" comment even more applicable.