thescientist
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- Joined
- Jul 23, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- INTJ
- Enneagram
- 5w4
Lexapro is what I'm currently on. It's the only thing I've really tried.I am on a small dose of lexapro, and I believe it to have helped without changing my personality (although I was afraid of that). In the end, I believe the best cure to INTJ anxiety is a group of ENFP friends. Also, watch David Fincher's Fight Club.
Interesting suggestion about ENFP friends. I know exactly what you mean about ENFP's. I do love ENFP's. They are so inspiring, uplifting and positive...BUT...see below
I'm so sorry to hear your ENFP experience. I went through something similar recently so I can TOTALLY relate. An ENFP at work was interested in me initially. We dated a few times. When he realized he was no longer interested, he led me on at work for a long time and then gave me the cold shoulder. It was so hurtful because I had really fallen hard for him. After I confronted him about it, he was just vindictive and acted like a petulant child.I've never been on medication. I feel like I might become addicted after I try them. Why? Because I am always depressed. I hate myself and I can never attain the standards I want to achieve (which are essentially impossible, trust me). I think that most INTJs are doomed to be unhappy with their lives. Although, I can say that the happiest I've ever felt in my life was after speaking with an ENFP girl. I don't know what it was about her, but talking with her for a few hours really made me happy (for a few days).
Later, when my feelings overcame me and I put my heart out to her, she rejected me. This has caused me to be even more depressed than usual. Sometimes (really all the time), I wish I was ....
I unfortunately have to continue seeing him at work. He's back from his month long trip tomorrow. I'm just bracing myself and telling myself I deserve better. Lots of positive self-talk. But this has definitely messed with my anxiety/depression.
However, I do realize their potential to uplift us in ways others cant. They are so inspiring when they are being genuine with us. I guess I could stick with female ENFP's, but it's hard as it is for INTJ to make friends, so I dont have any close ENFP friends at the moment.
I have a history of depression/suicide on my dads side of the fam (Dad is also INTJ, but interestingly enough, I've never seen him depressed). I think I def need psychotherapy soon. I don't like my SOLE dependence on the medication right now. I think therapy will help me rely less on the meds although not completely eliminate their need.