[INTJ] INTJ Turn Ons

[SecantSquared]

I'm nice, and I'm very well liked.

well aren't you just special.

 

[FigerPuppet]

I'm nice, and I'm very well liked.

 

[thescientist]

- show him a completely novel world that's a bit zany
- pick up on the little things he does, as he speaks less, does a whole lot more, and be original in your response to show that you 'got it' (by catering to his particulars, that are unique to him...like remember something he mentioned offhand he really liked)
- appreciate the oddball sarcasm and throw a few back
- you may not know it, but once he, in his mind, has gotten signs that you guys can have serious potential....he's off dreaming ("planning") of how you guys will be down the road, years later.....if he lets some of these visions slip, almost casually (to test how it's received), don't shy away from it, if you're ready and willing to go there. If he sees you retreating, he'll be once bitten, twice shy
- be spontaneous, adventurous...he's secretly wanting you to drag him out of his shell a bit

^ What she said.

ENFP's in silly mode.

 

[Lurker]

1. asexuality

or...

2. really freaky esoteric fetishistic shit that would be banned from 4chan

 

[lamp]

really freaky esoteric fetishistic shit that would be banned from 4chan

subscribed

 

[runvardh]

1. asexuality

or...

2. really freaky esoteric fetishistic shit that would be banned from 4chan

subscribed

Edit: Dom, sub, or otherwise? Otherwise is probably more P than J, though...

 

[chasingAJ]

IMO, the biggest thing is that you have to engage them on an intellectual level. My SO got nerdy with me, laughed at my nerdy jokes (you don't have to laugh but if I don't have to s-l-o-w things down for you, you're good). Don't talk about something you don't know squat about like you know what you're talking about, seriously. Just, Don't. Don't talk about money (like how much you have) unless it's in the context of the markets or something interesting you learned about the Fed. Don't dish out emotions for awhile. A simple, I'm smitten with you or I'm interested in you or I'm attracted to you is enough. Got it, moving on with the convo... Totally agree with notice something about me (mine remembered my favorite flower that I mentioned to another friend over a year prior... I jumped him for that one). Having a convo that you don't know much about and saying 'I wish I knew more about that' and then actually looking it up and saying 'hey, I was reading about blah... and ...' is a good move. You don't have to be interested in EVERYTHING I'm interested in but if I say something that strikes you, don't be too lazy to look into it. Oh and most important thing of all, have your own life. Have something interesting you do or want to do or some passion. Then want to talk about it (not all the time) but be able to explain something about it because I want to know about you or I don't really want you. Ya know?

I'm a very well educated lover, a big turn on is someone who says 'I was reading about this move in bed... lets try it' I don't want to know that you learned it from an ex... always read about it... not a porn... reading. I'm very direct with those things... I'd like to hear 'I think this would make you feel good and when I have you graveling (playful, don't power trip on me) you can return the favor by this' direct, I know what you want, I can enjoy myself... share... check check check. Done. Not exactly THAT robotic but more open and less OMGWHATAMISUPPOSEDTOBEDOINGHERE thought provoking.

Even when I know what to do, the social awkward kicks in. I have never had a partner who didn't pursue, I don't notice people very often otherwise. I do usually say (very openly) Hey, you're hot. Or I really like you. Then they can chase or be complimented and life moves on.

Guys are different but clear signals are best. I don't do hints. I may be able to draw conclusions for weird technical reading but cannot do the same from hint dropping.

Hope that helps...some?

 

[highlander]

- show him a completely novel world that's a bit zany
- pick up on the little things he does, as he speaks less, does a whole lot more, and be original in your response to show that you 'got it' (by catering to his particulars, that are unique to him...like remember something he mentioned offhand he really liked)
- don't back away from going toe-to-toe in your views, and listen openly to his
- appreciate the oddball sarcasm and throw a few back
- you may not know it, but once he, in his mind, has gotten signs that you guys can have serious potential....he's off dreaming ("planning") of how you guys will be down the road, years later.....if he lets some of these visions slip, almost casually (to test how it's received), don't shy away from it, if you're ready and willing to go there. If he sees you retreating, he'll be once bitten, twice shy
- be spontaneous, adventurous...he's secretly wanting you to drag him out of his shell a bit

This is a very good answer. Much better than that ENTP robot talking noise above.

 

[BlahBlahNounBlah]

This is a very good answer. Much better than that ENTP robot talking noise above.

She's an ENTP too.

 

[1487610420]

A Fi dom is theoretically in a very good position to appeal to an INTJ, who has tertiary Fi and is therefore childlike and innocent in exactly the function that most defines your identity.

Only as much as with ENTP + ENFJ dynamic. I will let someone else tell the horror stories.

I recommend not being anything other than yourself.

All of the action advice in this thread is useless and offtopic for the above reason. If anything INTJ descriptions are okay.

One can NOT be oneself and simultaneously be taking directions! FFSWTFU!

kthxbai
:hi:

 

[InvisibleJim]

Only as much as with ENTP + ENFJ dynamic. I will let someone else tell the horror stories.

Generally works fine for us if our functions are on the same wavelength as we rarely feel the need to outperform our partner.

 

[InfiniteIntrigue]

Turn ons:

Intelligence.
Coherence.
Sarcasm, but not over the top.

 

[thisGuy]

....

 

[Litvyak]

Being my total opposite with only one or two mutual interests is a definite turn on.

 

[Thessaly]

Being my total opposite with only one or two mutual interests is a definite turn on.

Interesting.

 

[Kangirl]

Is the answer "deft use of raw, pitiless logic"? I think it is.

 

[dux]

Though call.

I suggest: just be yourself!
There seems to be a natural attraction between INFP-INTJ (been there - and being there)
Don't know why...
INFP's to us just seem to be... fun... intresting... mysterious... whatever...
BUT, we're a bit restrained in showing our emotions (which run deeply though) and I like to be pursued myself (and I'm a very adult male!)

So, don't skirt around issues.... be direct...

just confront him with your feelings... if he's worth it he'll be very considerate...

 

[freedom geek]

I want a girl who is intelligent, rational, knowledgeable, introverted, curious, creative, transhumanist, pro-science, intellectual (in the sense that you like thinking), imaginative, completely against having children and who has shared values and interests. Things that indicate you have these traits turn me on.

 

[Liason]

Learn to debate well.
Stop saying "um"
Stop saying "huh"
:]

 

[Provoker]

Turn ons:

Intelligence.
Coherence.
Sarcasm, but not over the top.

The last time I was turned on was January 22 2010. I was at the gym, working out to my usual routine, and there was a women on the treadmill who I found quite attractive. I was attracted to her geometrical composition and economy of movement (i.e. the way the parts worked together). Of this, there are women with different economies of movement--for instance, I have observed very faminine women who walk like men; I have also observed very masculine women that move quite gracefully. Having boxed for 10 years and having gone to an arts academy (where I took music, but where there were many dancers) I have observed the art of movement for some time now. I can, for instance, point out a boxer and a dancer merely by their walk about 90 percent of the time. Further, I could tell by the way she ran that she had good rhythm, which implies that she is able to keep good time. From this I deduced that she is likely left-hemisphere dominant. However, there is only so much one can deduce from circumstancial evidence without making leaps in logic beyond what the evidence warrents. Still, she had good form and structure as far as I could tell and this I prefer to clumsy form and a slouch's structure.

Infinite Intrigue, intelligence does not turn me on as much as a lack thereof turns me off. In other words, as soon as I learn that a women is of inferior intellect I am disinterested. Now, it is also the case that I haven't met a women who I consider on par with me in my sense of intelligence (which is a highly rational/philosophical type of intelligence). And for a women to be on par with me, she would either have to be naturally brilliant or else work like a dog (i.e. do math and read books for 16 hours a day, assuming a decent level of raw intellect to begin with. Otherwise, one in-depth conversation with me will completely wear a women of average intellect out). Accordingly, the ones who work like dogs usually have very tight schedules, the type of schedules that cannot be accommodated to given my routine which has militarized all aspects of life to a strict and 100 percent predictable regiment. Then if this category of women is rendered inaccessible, as neither wants to compromise for the other, than that leaves only the naturally brilliant women who has the flexability to accommodate to my schedule as she has the resources to do it. I have not met such a women. Therefore, if intelligence was my sole criterion, and if the quantity of the future resembles patterns of the past, then a women as such is unattainable. However, I would like to eventually attain a women; therefore, this cannot be the sole criterion. Still, to be fair I think there are a lot of women out there who are smart in their own ways. A women of this variety is to be preferred to one of another.

Regarding coherence, this too seems to be necessary but it alone is not sufficient. I am, for instance, certainly not attracted to--and indeed annoyed by--women who say all kinds of dubious things and have a habit of contradicting themselves. I like women who are proper. And proper women by definition think properly. Thinking properly implies thinking in a logically valid manner. By Modus Tollens if one is not thinking in a logically valid manner, then one cannot be thinking properly. There is no substitute for logically valid and therefore fallacious-free thinking. Women who cannot meet this basic standard do not have space in my life. Again, similar to intelligence, coherence is not so much attractive as a lack thereof is simply unthinkable. Now, one might make the argument that good chemistry consists in a system where one makes knots and the other untangles and straightens them out. Through intuition I have made knots that baffle even the cleverest of professors, and through rigorous thinking I have unknotted complex puzzles. From experience, therefore, I recognize the value in each. It could be argued, therefore, that a person who has a foothold in the one would quite naturally complement a person who has a foothold in the other. And certainly I am attracted to "random women" precisely because I think everything works according to rules and nowhere in this entire universe is there any irregularity (only ignorance). Naturally, I am attracted to women who follow an algorithm that is out of sync with what I am used to. Still, this would likely be short-run curiosity that is no substitute for long-run compatability and in the long-run I require someone who is coherent and reasons in a logically valid manner. Now, it could be the case that the women intuits random things, spills it out, and then we reason through it together. This would imply that she is at least conscious of the difference between an intuition and rigorous thinking and contemplation and that she is capable of both. To that end, this women would certainly be deemed compatable. However, following the dictates of reason and logic is to be the rule and contradictions and subjective whims only the exception. Otherwise, there is no chance for compatibility as we would go together as square does to circle.