i love
-my laid back style
-that i generally gain full understanding of things i am interested in [and can totally own conversation if the topic comes up]
-im mysterious and unpredictable
-i do what i want without fear of rejection by general public
-free will
-free spirit
-open heart
-closed mind
-compassion
-passionate about things i do
i dislike
-my awkward as eff social interactions
-my lonliness
-the way i dont go after what i want
-the way i can strongly dislike myself
-my 'too pure' nature
-i cant get across any feelings unless someone asks me how i feel about something
-lack of motivation
-lack of commitment
-lack of follow-through
I can relate to these.
My list is...
Likes: creativity, imagination, artistic talent, book smarts, eye for aesthetics, some writing talent, ability to take a compassionate angle but never condoning wrong, giving people the benefit of the doubt, being a good listener & a shoulder to cry on, being patient in teaching people, generally easy-going, having passionate feeling, devoted/loyal to those I care about, not afraid to be "different", tendency to champion the underdog, open to new people & new ideas but firm in my core beliefs, strong integrity and moral courage, easily grasping the theoretical/conceptual/abstract, motivated by noble ideals - not money/power, hopeful & trying to see the bright side.
My ability to empathize and find creative/insightful solutions really surprises me also - I don't have to experience something to understand it on some level. I never saw myself as being helpful or caring until I saw myself in the INFP profiles and understood what it means to "heal".
Dislikes: often seem cool/aloof/disinterested, very timid/shy, socially awkward, feeling/being tongue-tied, general passivity (things happen
to me, I don't often
make them happen), temperamental & high-strung, sometimes a know-it-all, sometimes hold an elitist attitude, sometimes excuse my flaws for making me "unique", critical/perfectionist - nothing lives up to my ideals, can appear inconsistent in how I "react" which makes people walk on eggshells, not nurturing or displaying of warmth in the typical ways, too intense/dark/deep - which makes everyday conversation rough at times, too detached from the moment, unaccepting of reality - may "over-fantasize", terrible about "keeping in touch" with people, extremely self-critical, prone to melancholy & self-isolation, selfish, negative/complaining, and very self-absorbed.
I hate that the things that I'm good at, and my strengths, don't really seem to be useful.
I totally relate to this also. I even feel like my good qualities make me
unlikable. My mom told me once, "There are many good things about you; you're smart, pretty and talented", and I thought, those are reasons people
hate you
. Not to mention my smarts are of the bookish and non-practical variety (meaning I fail at business), my creative talent is also hard to translate commercially, and any of my prettiness is definitely of the "offbeat" variety.