I'm surprised, genuinelly by your post, it just seemed so much more judgemental on anothers personal choices than most ENTP's I've seen on the board.
Maybe my sweeping judgement of ENTPs being better able to refrain from moralistic judgements was wrong.
You INFPs are sooo touchy about anything related to self, it's amazing you can function. I don't care of this woman has designed a harness for herself to ride on the bellies of elephants all day long and makes a living selling the amazing footage on her freaksofnature website, I don't care of she smokes crack, has a fetish for 90 year old men or happens to be a prostitute!
If this were an ENTP or any other NT/NF type I know of there would be a HUGE level of self reflection and understanding that had gone into the post prior to putting it up here. Mine would have read as follows:
"I'm currently struggling very much so with my life and direction. I have a wonderful partner however I'm not able to balance maintaining a healthy relationship and my personal issues. I refuse to act on these thoughts I've had because I can't do that to another human being I love but it also leaves me feeling like I'm not being myself.
This struggle is getting the best of me and I'm starting to feel very disappointed in myself for not being able to get a handle on it myself. I guess I already know the answer, this is unfair to both people involved and I should end this relationship before I do something stupid and damaging this him however that makes me feel like I'm a failure so any help would be wonderful"
Do you see how that worked? Because I'm not Fi it was posted before causing damage to somebody that has entrusted me with their love?
Now I understand you guys have a hard time thinking you could be the issue. There are how many of you having to team up on me to defend and justify the OPs implied cheating so clearly this is something you all feel very personal about defending however you think somebody would manage to see the husband, other party, the person being hurt in the situation. You think somebody would be able to point out that the OP has used poor judgement.
I'd say the tendency to dream of greener pastures is a common INFP trait, but following through and cheating is not. At least, not in myself nor the INFPs I've known personally.
Also, let's be clear that the INFPs in this thread are not condoning cheating. The arguments against Tucson are against the assumptions he is making simply because the poster is typed as 'INFP', and the judgements he makes based on those assumptions.
Thank you Udog, I will only say that those assumptions are founded in knowing INFPs in real life and well frankly, threads like this.
Edit: Actually, if we met IRL, I would probably be your boss.
Funny when you consider I've always owned my own business. Never did have an INFP working for me though. But you're right, if I got a job I bet you would be my boss, I'm happy to see you don't take offense to that as my statement would have read the same with with a very different meaning you clearly couldn't see.
Unless of course she skinned the family cat and fed it to him for dinner after shagging his friend and the milkman in a spit roast session
I truly hope you were trying to be funny because this made me laugh for about 5 minutes! That would be awesome* if she'd done this and I would have gained new respect for you INFPs!
*Provided of course it wasn't a cat but a baby as I know how many of you iNtuitives would take offense to somebody skinning a cat!