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[INFPtheQuietOne]

I think most people see us as cute, naive, fragile, and innocent. They always try to get us out of our shell, calling us cute or soft. It gets really annoying because we INFPs usually hate attention and we can't help our extreme reserve. If people were to stereotype us, they'd always say INFPs are the only "innocent, quiet, gentle one." I don't get why we're called these smothering things just because we're so shy and quiet. It's so condescending it's like we're inferior children or something. All the other feeling types are never called these things like INFPs. Some INFPs are the total opposite, at least most of the males. There are cold and antisocial INFPs too, but regardless of gender we're human too. So what's up with the "gentle, cute, shy, soft" INFP description?

 

[Qlip]

I don't know. I have spent time with 4 INFPs in my life. Only one was warm. The rest have either been chilly and/or dark which I don't mind at all. I've just made a friend of an INFP 4w5, probably. T's are supposed to be cold, but it tends to be pretty neutral, INFP 4s like to try to provoke your emotions.

 

[chickpea]

people who've barely ever spoken to me automatically assume i'm very innocent or much younger than i am or both. recently i went to the designated smoking area at my new job ans lit up a cigarette and a coworker of mine gasped and said "you're the last person i'd expect to see smoking!" and was nicer to me after that

i do get a little enjoyment out of knowing how easily i could shock someone with one story though but i'd rather remain mysterious.

 

[Redbone]

I don't know...maybe for some. My SO is an INFP and I think other people see him as reserved. Aloof...even cold, snobby, and arrogant at times (he's not truly like that but that kind of thing gets projected on him). My roommate is an INFP, too. He's got this over-excited "please like me!!!!" puppy mode or this dark "I'll bust your head into the freaking wall if you get in my way!" mode.

I think they both secretly love attention, too. It just has to be the right kind.

 

[INFPtheQuietOne]

people who've barely ever spoken to me automatically assume i'm very innocent or much younger than i am or both. recently i went to the designated smoking area at my new job ans lit up a cigarette and a coworker of mine gasped and said "you're the last person i'd expect to see smoking!" and was nicer to me after that

i do get a little enjoyment out of knowing how easily i could shock someone with one story though but i'd rather remain mysterious.

Well smoking is bad though and people think I don't even know what drugs are because I never wanted to have drugs. But at least we can easily blend in the background so crowds don't smother us all the time.

 

[INFPtheQuietOne]

I don't know...maybe for some. My SO is an INFP and I think other people see him as reserved. Aloof...even cold, snobby, and arrogant at times (he's not truly like that but that kind of thing gets projected on him). My roommate is an INFP, too. He's got this over-excited "please like me!!!!" puppy mode or this dark "I'll bust your head into the freaking wall if you get in my way!" mode.

I think they both secretly love attention, too. It just has to be the right kind.

Yeah, they probably just want somebody close and nothing else.

 

[Pionart]

INFPs pretend to be your friend and then steal precious items... maybe that's just the one INFP

 

[gromit]

I don't know. I have spent time with 4 INFPs in my life. Only one was warm. The rest have either been chilly and/or dark which I don't mind at all. I've just made a friend of an INFP 4w5, probably. T's are supposed to be cold, but it tends to be pretty neutral, INFP 4s like to try to provoke your emotions.

Same, I've known several with stony faces. Very caring on the inside, but I think they come across more as aloof.

 

[chickpea]

Well smoking is bad though

obviously.. she was smoking too though, and you missed the point.

 

[Ghost]

we're human too

When did we get demoted?

 

[INFPtheQuietOne]

When did we get demoted?

Well the issue is we're actually so serious, but on the outside people think we're soft and use our quietness and vibe for their problem dumping ground.

 

[PotatoPeeler68]

Stereotypes. They're completely wrong, but what can you do?