nightning
ish red no longer *sad*
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- Apr 23, 2007
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- MBTI Type
- INfj
+1I had half the mind to write "You don't find us. We find you."
The thing with INFJs I found is that we are highly variable. For me, I'm mostly in the background quietly observing things unless I spot problems or potential problems. Then I step in to help sort things up, provide new perspectives, different way of looking at things. Very one on one type of help. After things are back on track, I leave. On the whole it gives the impression of "nice but detached".
Look for Ni vs Si... ISFJs I know are very very traditional. They also pay more attention to the details than us scatterbrained INFJs. Female ISFJs are the ones that send thank you cards to you... a little something for christmas holiday. Their sense of "helping" is also more "hands on". To those who they're close to... they're always close at hand. An INFJ might see things coming along and move on to something else, but the ISFJ will stay until everything is completed.
What distinguishes you from an ISFJ in behavior? This particular (who I think is) ISFJ has, in her intimate circle of four friends, an ISFJ, ExFP and ESTP and ISFx.
I'm also sorta close-ish with her, and have never picked up on any Ni at all. We've always seemed to have "missed" each other in our points until in a larger group discussion where I join their circle of friends and it's all S talk.
INFJ guys... I only know of one... he's not easily typed unless you're an INFJ yourself or know us really well. Again, look for that Ni. It's good to throw at them something random... like an Ne idea. See how they deal with it. Switch topics halfway and see if they're still thinking along the lines of the first idea (tying the first idea with the 2nd etc) or follow you strictly onto the new one. That's the best test for Ni vs Ne.
INTJ vs INFJ... just look for the sentimental side.