Wyst
lurking....
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- Jul 6, 2008
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- INFJ
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Wyst...Are you Ne testing with this^...
*Wyst makes an attempt to add trustworthy people to his close friends. (Count me in!, OK!)
We gotta talk.
Mmmmmaybe I'm Ne testing the waters to see where people stand before I reveal my stance on the subject at hand... :-/
And by the way... this is the second time I've seen you do emotes for other people. Very strange...
i totally understand what you're saying in the above paragraph. i think we feel the urge to jump in because we are picking up on the flow and reading the people, and sincerely enjoying the moment, and have immense thoughts and feelings flying all about our heads and bodies. but i do believe being a true infj keeps us from jumping in there.
Perhaps - but eventually 20-something INFJ, through the years and life experiences because a 50-something INFJ. That INFJ isn't still going to hold back if they don't really want to - they've learned when to go for things and when to hold back through life lessons. So here's a question for ya, does that (being a developed INFJ) UNmake them an INFJ?
what is the big deal anyway? if we don't jump in there, we are still part of the conversation. the listening part, which can be more fascinating. if we do jump in there, it usually falls flat, right? it just does. okay, maybe we'll get lucky and our moment will be amazing, but then it will pass and we won't be able to sustain it for the most part, and we'll skulk back into the crowd hopefully unnoticed......haha. you know what i mean?
Trust me. I know what you mean.
But eventually if you figure out when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em, wouldn't you want to take advantage of that knowledge?
i think you are an awesome infj trying to make yourself into an enfj, estp, estj, ? or something like that.
No way! I'm just trying to develop myself as an INFJ.
are you finding it hard to be patient and to be a true infj because you feel like you can't meet women that way? that the women flock to the 'life of the party,' or more extroverted men, and that your normal activities aren't condusive to meeting interesting women?
Nnnnooo, that's not really it...
I'm even talking about participating in conversations about theology, politics...whatever and those things have nothing to do with women and romance. Man, I used to just BRISTLE whenever my parents started talking about matters of faith, politics and other controversial stuff. Not anymore though - and it's really helped me deepen my friendship with them because I'm not so touchy.
but forcing yourself to act in a way that goes against your intuition --our specialty function--is just driving you further from who you really are.
EXCELLENT advice.
Ooooonnne smmmaaaaalll concession though... who we are now is not who we're destined to be. I'm always changing. Thank God for that.. otherwise I'd still be the irritating 15-year old that knew no limits...
*looks around for ENTPs to irritate*