there are many mis-typed infjs, but there is also much underlying variation in terms of enneagram types that effect overall infj expression. and, of course, developmental and cultural factors which obscure communication.
Ni, especially for infjs (vs intjs), is really fucking hazy and ambiguous. particularly in poorly developed writers, it can be difficult to see the overall complexity of Ni. and unchallenged Ni can appear very lazy, can fuse to specific values very tightly, and lose the ability to work multiple angles and synthesize complex scenes.
both infj and isfj have a vernacular kind of speech, at heart. Fe embodies voices. but infj will be far less concrete, will drift away from objects, and will be more more symbolic/metaphoric. when young, this is often not under conscious control/awareness and leads to a very undefined and vague way of thinking. but if you ask them questions, they can usually focus, or recognize where the communication process is breaking down. if you show them what YOU see, they will understand. Si types struggle more to change their way of looking at the situation. objects are simply objects, it is what it is. Ni deals with relationships between vague and indeterminate ideas which are holistic. intjs are more hierarchically organized around objectives, problematics, and utility, whereas Fe method for infjs is more wandering, aimless, localized, meandering, kind of like emerging from a fog that returns again to cloud one's vision.
At the end of the day, it doesn't matter if other mistypes themselves. We cannot judge who really holds particular type preferences because only the individual him or herself can make that assessment. People are also not just their psychological types, and the complexities that lie within all of us is a mystery in spite of our more perceptible similarities. In my day to day life, I don't like to go around typing everyone, and if someone claims to have specific mbti preferences, then I won't try to retype them either if they don't fit my understanding of their type. What you see on the surface is not always the whole truth--particularly with INFJs.
infjs are J types. we want things to move in specific directions. we do NOT tolerate misinformation and false endorsements. if something is polluting the airwaves, we want to clean it up. this is one reason why we clash with P types and get really fucking judgy sometimes, and issue frequent critiques and self-critiques.
also, i do not look at the surface, nor claim truth. nor do i not look at the surface. this dichotomy is useless and in the way. there are many more relevant critiques involving re-typing some one else, regardless of whether you know them or not. the world is made up of critiques. also, i enjoy your screen-name immensely.
I find it very interesting that INFJs feel the need to constantly make threads about their own type. It couldn't be "People who have their self typing wrong," it has to be "INFJs who aren't INFJs." Tons of these threads made solely for INFJs could just as easily be made for every other type, and all of the INFJs could bombard that thread with entries about INFJs, and everyone would be included.
And I also don't understand why people strive to understand INFJs so much. It's not like you're really going to meet a lot of them, since they make up roughly 0.5% of the world. I don't understand why there aren't a lot of ESFJ or ESTP threads, since they are among the most common people out there. Shouldn't you be more concerned with understanding them?
well for one, all e4s and e5s want to understand themselves. threads about e4 and e5 types being the predominant discussion are NOT surprising.
also, we like specificity. i don't want to talk about all types at once. the quality of discussion is rarely good and the focus is not there. it is unhelpful. we are J types (Pi) and we want to get into the nuts and bolts. we want structured discussion moving towards a specific ends. and we have more to talk about with other infjs (and other N types, generally). we usually have far more in common and far more ideas to communicate with other iNtuitives, especially in a form that is strictly writing such as this one. this is rarely isfp terrain, that you know your typology so well makes you an exception in that case (and a large part of why you thought you were infp for so long).
people like spending time with others who recognize them, understand them, and bring out their best form of expression they can muster.
You understand me far too well, one of the few people on here that does.
