Wild horses
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I bet ENFP; INFJ romance would be intense experience... aren' they like the most compatible combo!?
I'm an INFP, but I suspect ENFPs hold the same distaste for that kind of contrived try-hardry.
all i want to know is how to hit on an INFJ
What about contrived words?
weeeeeeeeellll.... if there's any ENFP guys out there that snagged an INFJ girl, want to discuss some strategy?
HAH... that's hysterical. So so so true. Practical stuff, ... yes, my infj and I tend to miscommunicate, but we love each other enough to piece through it, and come out smelling more rosey than before!!! Nothing quite like it!!
Relate very much to this. I've always said (and my friends have said of me) that I need someone who's gonna crack me open, and *knows how to* - usually Ni/Ne topics/approaches. Usually this requires an Ne-dom (for it to move ahead faster and most spontaneously and naturally), otherwise it might take a long time or simply never go anywhere, in the case of those who aren't terribly Ne/Ni-based.
As for ENFPs in relationships, I agree that we shy away from people the closer we get to them. Well, I do. If I really like someone, that's when I start to fade a little bit. If I can tell another person likes me, oh jeez, then I really back off. In that way, we don't exactly communicate what we feel in the beginning of a relationship, especially if our feelings are potentially serious. So yea, it's not necessarily a bad sign if an ENFP distances themselves from you a bit. You may have to spell it all out for them so that they trust your intentions.
I would like to get as many inputs as possible from you guys.
Socionics states that duality is the most rewarding relationship because it satisfies both partners' needs for completeness. Stages in this relationship also vary from being shaky to unbreakable (ONLY if there are mutual attractions and both partners have the same goals in life). I've met some ESTJs throughout my life, but they just don't seem to notice my presence (the introvert dual is supposed to fade in the background).
Regarding the ENFP: I LOVE ENFPs. I adore ENFPs. It's been my dream to end up with one, be it friendship or family life. I wish there could be more. But the 2 ENFPs that I met seemed very....distant. I even showed them my sincere intention to be friends. But oh well, maybe other ENFPs can explain about this, not just for romantic relationships but friendships as well.
I can still see how loving ENFPs are. They think far ahead and use feelings when making decisions, which can be seen as irrational. However, those are what make them dedicated to their relationships.
Your comments are appreciated. Thanks!
They say ENFPs "crack people open" as a kind of game, and that's kind of true for me. We'll share from our life eeeeasy, just to get the other person to do the same.
Sometimes I take a step back and think, girl do you realize how HUGE it is for this INFJ to share his intimate-est life stories and feelings with you?? And then I'm grateful that he counts me worthy (because we all know how picky you are INFJs). And I try to be as responsible with his heart as possible.
But, then they pounce without warning. It's always a surprise, and I'm never sure what I said or did that finally made them feel safe enough to jump on me. .
dammit! there needs to be some sort of chemical spray that can encourage INFJ pouncing
If you ask me, ENFPs already have a natural chemical property that encourages INFJ pouncing.