Cupcakefrog
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- Dec 3, 2013
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- MBTI Type
- INFJ
I'm just getting into MBTI, and I'm sad I didn't know about it sooner. I think I took the test as a kid and just forgot about it or something. But while idly researching Jung I came across it again and took it for kicks. After reading more and more about my results I began to feel such a relief, at the thought of finally understanding myself; why I am so easily upset by little things that seem insignificant to others, why I always feel the need to make everyone feel comfortable and happy even at my own expense, why no one else seems to fully "get" me even if they really like me.
Anyways I was also so intrigued when I began to contemplate what types the people who are always in my heart and mind might be. I'm beyond fascinated with a man that I know I can never have, due to societies restrictions (pretty valid ones in this case). Or, at least never any time soon. Or in this lifetime. I'm not even sure I really want him that way, I just think he is brilliant and unique and super special, and because of this I want him in my life. I don't often loose my head over people like this. It has happened only a couple times. I think what freaks me out the most, and therefore draws me in so intensely, is that he seems to be able to read my thoughts. I'm used to being the only one around me able to do this, at least to such a heightened degree. It makes me want him and want to be around him, but it also terrifies me. I don't like for ANYONE to know what i'm thinking.....and yet, I seem to crave it at the same time.
This was all a very long winded way of getting to my question: Can INTJs "read minds" too? (Or pick up on subtle behaviors very easily, or whatever you want to call it, I call it reading minds)
I became pretty certain after a little research that he must be INTJ. He is so smart, so logical, and yet, reminds me so much of myself in that he is so mysterious, harder to read than most. I think I fell for him even harder because I thought he must be deeply emotional like I am as well underneath that cool exterior. I even thought I saw glimpses of it, he has the sweetest smile ever and the most gentle disposition. Then, after months and months of fantasizing about this seemingly perfect man, when circumstances put us in a situation where we really actually had to stop playing mysterious and communicate with one another face to face, his bluntness and coldness threw me for a loop and actually hurt my feelings deeply. He wasn't even mean in anyway... just sort of curt and cut off emotionally.
I realize this may be because our relationship is (would be) "completely inappropriate" and I began to see in his embarrassed expression that perhaps this was the reason he was acting so odd and distant. Then I started to feel absolutely ashamed thinking he can completely read me as well and knows how I feel about him just based off of my expressions. I know most people have no idea what is going on with me, ever, except when I give off that "I wanna be alone" vibe on purpose. But I have a nagging feeling that he sees right through me. It excites me because its such a rare feeling. But its terrifying at the same time, and now I'm torn between completely avoiding him, and just trying to be a normal sane person who doesn't believe in telepathy, woman-ing up, and facing him and the world.
I should mention, I am struggling with this so much because he is a professor at my school, who happens to teach exactly what I am interested in. I didn't want to admit this if I could avoid it, because it is such a cliche. But I really just need to vent about it. I thought I could just have an innocent crush on him and get away with it, and learn as much as I possibly can from him in the process. But now I'm afraid that will be a rather difficult, awkward, and painful process if he is as well aware as I am of these feelings.
But I'm praying that I'm just projecting the mind-reader thing onto him because he is introverted and intuitive like me? And in reality he has not a clue what I am thinking? Please let that be the case. Otherwise I will have to start learning how to act really well, or get some new interests.
So glad I finally found a place where I would feel comfortable sharing such personal feelings.
Anyways, any thoughts? advice? comforting words?
Anyways I was also so intrigued when I began to contemplate what types the people who are always in my heart and mind might be. I'm beyond fascinated with a man that I know I can never have, due to societies restrictions (pretty valid ones in this case). Or, at least never any time soon. Or in this lifetime. I'm not even sure I really want him that way, I just think he is brilliant and unique and super special, and because of this I want him in my life. I don't often loose my head over people like this. It has happened only a couple times. I think what freaks me out the most, and therefore draws me in so intensely, is that he seems to be able to read my thoughts. I'm used to being the only one around me able to do this, at least to such a heightened degree. It makes me want him and want to be around him, but it also terrifies me. I don't like for ANYONE to know what i'm thinking.....and yet, I seem to crave it at the same time.
This was all a very long winded way of getting to my question: Can INTJs "read minds" too? (Or pick up on subtle behaviors very easily, or whatever you want to call it, I call it reading minds)
I became pretty certain after a little research that he must be INTJ. He is so smart, so logical, and yet, reminds me so much of myself in that he is so mysterious, harder to read than most. I think I fell for him even harder because I thought he must be deeply emotional like I am as well underneath that cool exterior. I even thought I saw glimpses of it, he has the sweetest smile ever and the most gentle disposition. Then, after months and months of fantasizing about this seemingly perfect man, when circumstances put us in a situation where we really actually had to stop playing mysterious and communicate with one another face to face, his bluntness and coldness threw me for a loop and actually hurt my feelings deeply. He wasn't even mean in anyway... just sort of curt and cut off emotionally.
I realize this may be because our relationship is (would be) "completely inappropriate" and I began to see in his embarrassed expression that perhaps this was the reason he was acting so odd and distant. Then I started to feel absolutely ashamed thinking he can completely read me as well and knows how I feel about him just based off of my expressions. I know most people have no idea what is going on with me, ever, except when I give off that "I wanna be alone" vibe on purpose. But I have a nagging feeling that he sees right through me. It excites me because its such a rare feeling. But its terrifying at the same time, and now I'm torn between completely avoiding him, and just trying to be a normal sane person who doesn't believe in telepathy, woman-ing up, and facing him and the world.
I should mention, I am struggling with this so much because he is a professor at my school, who happens to teach exactly what I am interested in. I didn't want to admit this if I could avoid it, because it is such a cliche. But I really just need to vent about it. I thought I could just have an innocent crush on him and get away with it, and learn as much as I possibly can from him in the process. But now I'm afraid that will be a rather difficult, awkward, and painful process if he is as well aware as I am of these feelings.
But I'm praying that I'm just projecting the mind-reader thing onto him because he is introverted and intuitive like me? And in reality he has not a clue what I am thinking? Please let that be the case. Otherwise I will have to start learning how to act really well, or get some new interests.
So glad I finally found a place where I would feel comfortable sharing such personal feelings.
Anyways, any thoughts? advice? comforting words?
