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Tigerlily

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Okay so in three days my in laws arrive and I am starting to freak out!

Every time we are expecting guests, here's what starts happening. I get very wacky and start cleaning the house like a freak! I start obsessing over every little thing and imagine for example like our guests opening the blinds and dust smacking them in the face so I scrub the blinds. You get the idea. :p

Now here is the next weird thing that I do. When my Mother In law arrives we always clash for the first few days and it's because she acts nervous and careful around me (I don't blame her). Now I know I can be scary but it's so awkward the way she acts that it makes me feel as if she is invading my territory.

I asked my Husband tonight if woman can also be territorial and he said sure (great answer huh? ;P). So my question is can we woman be territorial bitches? Like if you are a guest in my house and want to make your own coffee should I feel like snapping your head off because you're in MY kitchen?

I know I am very J and can at times be competitive. I love nothing more than for someone to visit and tell me how clean and organized our house is. :wacko:I know. I just feel that when things are clean and organized all is right with my world.


PS Heather please don't be scared. I feel very relaxed at the thought of you staying with us . :yes: :hug:
 

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I also hate when they pile their shoes up by the front door. I am considering making them a space in the closet downstairs to store them in. A couple of days I wouldn't mind but two weeks! :eek:

I just know when we get home from our trip, the house is going to look like shit! :cry:

Okay thanks for letting me rant! :D
 

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I don't like in-laws in my kitchen doing stuff either. Like using knives on the bare counter tops, sticking bare fingers in pickle jars, that sort of thing. ugh.
 

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Oh dear, marmite on the worktop, the remains of a roast dinner in the bin... faggots and spotted dick splashed on the walls! Yep, you know when your English In-laws have been in town :devil:
 

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Heather don't listen to SH. I'm not that bad! I give you my word! :)

Heart do you think it's an alpha female thing? Feel free to analyze why some women are territorial about their things. :yes:

Geoff, you know it! ;)
 

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The in-laws are coming! Run for your lives! :horor:

Geoff, that was an ugly, ugly picture you just painted in my mind. :shock:
 

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Aw, Jen, I know it'll be okay. I'll stay out from underfoot and be like a little mouse. Except I won't chew holes in cereal boxes and poop in your silverware drawer. Okay, maybe not a mouse . . . You know what I mean. :D
 

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I'd say it's pretty normal to feel territorial if it's in-laws you're talking about. Mothers-in-law have a way of making you feel like you can't do anything right, and that they're constantly judging you.

If you feel territorial anytime you have ANY woman over, that might be a concern. *shrugs* I'm a P, so I wouldn't notice how organized everything was unless the house was so clean and free of stuff that it looked like no one had ever lived there. That's when it gets weird.
 

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I think if they were half way civilized or if they didn't make it so plain that they cannot stand me, I might feel okay with them in my private space.

I don't worry about the housekeeping around them. My MIL will always find something to nitpick and make her underhanded comments about so matter what. She criticized me for using Vainty Fair napkins instead of paper towels, said I was trying to put on airs!:huh:

And their own houses are like with rushes on the floor practically, but husband always gets so worked up about the place needs to be extra clean when they come. It is like cleaning up for a herd of stampeding buffalo.
 

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I do the same when visitors arrive to our house. Clean like the madman except I'm not very detail oriented. ;)

I am extremely territorial. I hate extremely territory invasive persons who come to visit us. I hate people who don't respect the privacy of other people and who are always sticking their head into other peoples business. I totally hate that. :steam:
 
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