And again. In english this time pls. People with your communication style are particularly difficult for me to understand. I get what you are hinting at but never your full meaning and I often take things you say in a negative sense. Maybe you mean them that way, and if so, then maybe the reasons why escapes me too.
I guess my silliness does not jive with your more serious style.
Ok, lemme try this again.
I agreed with you on your type - you saw my rep, I'm sure - then I read the rest of your op. And your other posts.
And...I'm a sucker for irony, so by the time I wrote that post, I was amused by the w4 screaming in your posts in this thread. All I did was share what I observed, as well as my amusement. It does not mean I think you re not 5w6, or that I'm mocking you for thinking so. We all use both wings, according to enneagram. It just seems that your 4 one is...well, right now pretty active and perhaps in need of addressing. It *might* mean that your w4 is a dominant one or even that you are a 4. But then I don't know you well enough to make that assessment, so I just tossed the observation into the pot for you to do with as you will
Fwiw, I don't usually do passive aggressiveness or anything like that, unless I'm reacting to something and it somehow got to me which is something I try to minimise as much as I can and so far, I've had no reason to do so with you. I also do not tend to antagonise just to antagonise - I reserve this for people I know better and who are ok with me pushing their buttons as a game as they understand I would never mean any harm.
I guess it can come off that way though when I see an angle (Ne) or perspective that is in some way amusing to me - often due to irony and the way it juxtaposes the dominant pov on the topic at the time. And yes, then I tend to inject that other angle into the conversation and...well sit in the sidelines to see what people do with it. It's ingenious what people can come up with and how each one individually will take raw data like that to incorporate into their already existing pov OR completely reinterpret their pov in that way. Perhaps that is what you are picking up on? The amusement is at the process, not at the expense of the person - we all after all are growing and revising our povs all the time, including me. It would be hypocritical to hold that against someone or mock them for it.
If you do notice something, like this time, I do love that you addressed it this way so we can clear it up without any drama.
Re OP: 5w6 tend to have a deliciously dry sense of humour, often are like your own personal walking library, calm and reliable in a crisis and yes, they need time alone but it also means that they tend to be less drama, making them a safe haven for when you just want some company while being left alone - without talking.
Once they get a handle on how to pro-actively deal with that anxiety of the big bad world, and stop fighting themselves on needing time to be alone - causing resentment and fatigue, as well as emotional imbalance - without shunning their responsibilities out in the real world, they tend to be rocks and treasure troves to the few lucky people they allow in their bubble as well as successful in everything they put their powerful minds to. It is just a matter of disciplining and channeling that big brain of theirs in just the right way - enough freedom for creativity with enough discipline and enticing goals so it doesn't just run circles around them causing anxiety and feeling out of control.
here goes....
