[ENFP] Hate an ENFP? Tell us why!

[Into It]

I don't think that any hostility towards ENFPs you'll find has anything to do with the ENFP type-or the unconscious tendencies of people who call themselves ENFPs. It is mostly associated with the behaviors of such individuals when they are off-balance.

This statement is actually two premises; I agree with one and not the other. I agree that hostility towards ENFP's is not directed at the unconscious tendencies themselves. I disagree that only off-balanced ENFPs will display unfavorable characteristics that may rub people the wrong way. While an off-balanced person may be more likely to exhibit these characteristics, common tendencies shared by people of this type may still bother others. For example, I have a very difficult time understanding why SJ's never seem to observe the "big picture," and this has nothing to do with how healthy they are. However, this may only be a testament to my own imbalance .

 

[Cool]

They're to giddy and I can't handle that. They sometimes get physical with people. I could tolerate emotional people, they're cool; but ENFP just brings things to a whole othe drama

 

[Rachelinpa]

I felt like she was dangling the whole "this is my apartment and I'm -graciously- let you stay here" over my head to limit whatever rights I had.

Yeah, that's definitely rude of her, but to be honest, she probably didn't want you staying there in the first place and was feeling overwhelmed. I usually don't extend what I'm not willing to follow through on, but sometimes I don't know how I'll feel until it's too late and I won't back out on a commitment. The giving side of me would want you to stay because you needed a place to stay and I enjoy your company, but the selfish side of me would be like WHOA I need more space than I thought. The comments she kept making about you staying there were probably because she was feeling cramped and regretting her decision.

Once I got my frustration in check, I simply left a note saying something like "Rach, sorry I can't stay here, I'm just a little overwhelmed with things right now and feeling vulnerable. I'll come pick up my cat tomorrow."

It makes sense that she would want you to go, but definitely not like that. She probably didn't know you were as bothered and hurt as you were and could have used a heads up. We're so gosh darn sensitive to any form of rejection. I think if you told her in person, she'd definitely be more receptive than to come back to a note like that. We like open communication (even if it hurts), not what seems to be a slap in the face. But, I can totally see how that would be intimidating for you to do.

Yeah, sounds like a lose-lose situation and an ENFP gone bad. Really bad. Ah, rampant emotionalism. I can't tell you what to do because I don't even know what to do with it myself. It's completely outta hand.

 

[CzeCze]

You women are too nervous

You know some people interpret that as charm, right?

never dress correctlty for the right occasion

It's called 'flair'.

and always want sex when I just want to talk.

Well, geez, that's better than the alternative, right? LOL.

Dang, if I were attracted to someone who always wanted to have sex that'd be perf -- oh wait, I'm just propping up your stereotype, now, aren't I?

PS On a more serious note, Steph, family relations always add another level to supposed type relations. Good luck with that but I'm sure you're breathing a sigh of relief now that you're out of there.

 

[Dali]

You women are too nervous

Not necessarily... and, when they are, it's a cute brand of nervous.

never dress correctlty for the right occasion

Oh yeah. I should have taken her more seriously when she asked me to vet her outfit before that office party I took her to...

always want sex when I just want to talk.

I know this charming, intelligent ENFP woman that trusts me almost unconditionally... I could have had her 10 times in the past month at various opportunities when she had totally let her guard down with me and was looking at me all naive and googly-eyed but I didn't want to hurt her later on so I let those 'opportunities' slip past.

 

[Serendipity]

That's really interesting. My ENFP friend does something very similar--spends all his time socializing and busying himself until, once he gets his alone time, he's not as overwhelmed and can relax. He channels out his problems and frustrations through pushing them off. It actually clears his head a lot, haha.

I do that too and that completely infuriates my mother.
By her behavioral patterns I would say ESTJ but I don't think I could EVER type someone else, especially since I feel that type is rather close minded and a bit too overrated. >>> I do not, in any way, mean this as a negative comment. <<<
Basically, I'm here for you guys; first forum with some lovely people. I gather that I haven't really been to many forums but anyhow. :3

It's actually the first forum that feels like IRL.

 

[Lady_X]

I do that too and that completely infuriates my mother.
By her behavioral patterns I would say ESTJ but I don't think I could EVER type someone else, especially since I feel that type is rather close minded and a bit too overrated. >>> I do not, in any way, mean this as a negative comment. <<<
Basically, I'm here for you guys; first forum with some lovely people. I gather that I haven't really been to many forums but anyhow. :3

It's actually the first forum that feels like IRL.

 

[Gamine]

OMG ENFPs

I hate them. Always making people feel special, being funny, being so multitalented, so energetic. It's so gross.

just in case someone takes that seriously: sarcasm <3

 

[alexx]

OMG ENFPs

I hate them. Always making people feel special, being funny, being so multitalented, so energetic. It's so gross.

just in case someone takes that seriously: sarcasm <3

 

[Lady_X]

mmmm...cupcakes!

 

[alexx]

I love cupcakes.





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[Virtual ghost]

What would be the point of hating people which are their own worst enemies?

 

[alexx]

NT ALERT! HIDE!

 

[Fluffywolf]

You have no chance to survive make your time.

 

[alexx]

/cries

 

[Amargith]

Alexx, sweety, relax . Haven't you noticed that most NTs are too curious about us to really wanna harm us? *reassuring hug*

*looks innocently at Fluffy and AO* Something I can help you gentlemen with?

 

[Fluffywolf]

Gentlemen?

AO, take off every ZIG! Somebody set up us the bomb.

 

[garbage]

What would be the point of hating people which are their own worst enemies?

this is pretty much true yes

 

[Moiety]

What would be the point of hating people which are their own worst enemies?

QFMFT :S

 

[Nonsensical]

I hate all ENFPs...

..excepty Amargith


No but srysly, I don't think I like a lot of ENFPs, as most of them act like ESFPs, and are really fruity, bubbly, energetic, and a lot can be superficial..but that's more the females. I don't know of any on these forums like that, maybe because all female ENFPs here have brains, so no worries.

I think there must be at least two different kind of ENFPs..those with brains/souls, and those of a more superficial and less intelligent approach..but that may be ESFP, I don't know.