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ESTP and INTP romance
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miss fortune
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I had a fling with an INTP chef once... I took him through the art museum and we giggled at the paintings, we'd stay up ridiculously late discussing all kinds of topics over wine and coffee and cigarettes and swapped books with each other, arguing over who had the better taste in literature... I think I once took him on a hike in the snow just so that he could see how beautiful the lake looked frozen over and then he laughed at me when I decided that I could indeed climb some ice covered stairs and landed flat on my ass instead 
(I did conquer those stairs on the second try though... and he just happily strolled up the snow covered grass instead... bastard)
we were both at weird spots in our lives at the time though and ended up going different ways... not sure how things might have happened otherwise if we were both in stable places, but we did have a lot of fun together
(I did conquer those stairs on the second try though... and he just happily strolled up the snow covered grass instead... bastard)we were both at weird spots in our lives at the time though and ended up going different ways... not sure how things might have happened otherwise if we were both in stable places, but we did have a lot of fun together
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I had a fling with an INTP chef once... I took him through the art museum and we giggled at the paintings, we'd stay up ridiculously late discussing all kinds of topics over wine and coffee and cigarettes and swapped books with each other, arguing over who had the better taste in literature... I think I once took him on a hike in the snow just so that he could see how beautiful the lake looked frozen over and then he laughed at me when I decided that I could indeed climb some ice covered stairs and landed flat on my ass instead
we were both at weird spots in our lives at the time though and ended up going different ways... not sure how things might have happened otherwise if we were both in stable places, but we did have a lot of fun together
How long did this fling last?
Julius_Van_Der_Beak
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I think I was in one. We just kind of drifted apart... the breakup wasn't really a surprise to me, although it affected me more than I thought at first.
miss fortune
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How long did this fling last?
about a month... which is long for a fling during that point in my life
and seriously... he had the most un-chefy personality known to humankind... and I think he still has my copy of The Decameron
ChocolateMoose123
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about a month... which is long for a fling during that point in my life
and seriously... he had the most un-chefy personality known to humankind... and I think he still has my copy of The Decameron
Lifetime movie of the week....
Plot summary: Janie didn't realize that night was the last time she would see Mike. If she had known, would she have lent out Lolita so easily? Hindsight is catch-22 in: "The Worst: Losing books to flings"
Galaxy Gazer
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I've met some really sweet ESTP guys in the past. Their Fe makes them surprisingly understanding and sensitive (unless they were all actually ExFJs, but I doubt it). I think the ESTP guy/INTP girl pairing is unlikely though. Most ESTPs are popular and social risk-takers. I've never met an INTP who wasn't really awkward. For my age group, it probably wouldn't go well. The ESTPs I know are pretty much exclusively attracted to ExFx types.
Maou
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I am only here because I am bored, but I am an INTP (female) who currently has an ESTP (male) partner of 8 years. Though I cannot say how well we would have gotten along if I wasn't such a mentally unstable person when we got together. But I can tell you when we first got together, they were new, fun, and interesting. Se and Ne can work well together with certain things. They introduced me to a ton of new things, and were my first for a lot of things. It was like getting on a ride you couldn't get off of. We rarely fought, but when we had a problem it festered under the surface till we both erupt at the same time at each other. There was lots of ignoring, and being stubborn as well. He was very assertive, and I was easily pushed to the side because of it, as well as my passive nature and avoiding addressing problems directly. Boundaries ended up becoming an issue later on. So if you are prepared to enter a relationship of that sort, you have to be assertive and establish your space early. Or you will never be able to retreat and have your alone time.
