I certainly don't mistake that for wellbeing. I hate ruts.
haha. I loved this. You and I should go into business together with a "ruts = bad livin" bumper sticker and of course...do a public school campaign as well. The *thorn* to this rose though...is that I fucked-up what I was saying. um where I said 'uneventful'... what I should have said was
'nothing especially tragic has happened to you recently...or possibly ever.'
In other words, whether an individual's life has become routine or each day is entirely different from the one before...that doesn't really matter (wtf Starry? geez.) People mistake 'nothing massively shitty happening' for 'I am
solid. I'm mentally healthy.' When you and I both know...they just haven't been tested.
^^I think a lot of things go wrong when people do this. Here though, I was trying to explain why it is so many "healthy" people give me that scary, hollow feeling (and as far as I'm concerned should be restricted by law from making self-help videos that I might accidentally check out from the library)...while so many people in pain and despair and hardship...seem quite solid.
Oh and that about having a bad relationship with the husband, that does make some sense though, money isn't going to fix that sort of issue.
^^I think this is such a good point and not one that is lost to me... I disagree
but acknowledge the above is considered a very healthy way of looking at these kinds of things.
More people would/will agree with your statement above than what I will say and so I acknowledge that as well. And I'm multi-tasking here which is especially confusing. [MENTION=9486]gromit[/MENTION]
I had an ENFP supervisor that... one day had returned to our office after having been gone all morning visiting a friend of her's in the hospital that had terminal cancer. And she was a bit pale...she didn't say 'hi' or anything...she was just sorta sputtering all around kinda shaking and knocking shit over. So I was like 'wtf?' Basically, she was processing the embarrassment she felt over how many times she caught herself
genuinely complaining about stuff that just... didn't... seem... all that tragic... once verbalized to someone dying in the hospital.
Now, my supervisor did blurt-out an apology for her behavior...to which her friend responded by mentioning this sort of Zen-like ideology...this notion that "we can't judge another person's suffering" <-And since this time I have poured thousands of hours into the consideration of this one precept. Ultimately concluding that that is absolute bullshit haha.
I mean, I think if you are dying in the hospital... listening to your friend discuss how she just can't recover from her last relationship that lasted 3 days...saying to yourself "we can't judge another person's suffering" is probably the smart thing to do. If, however, you have a difficult time seeing past your own narcissism...and one day find yourself complaining to a terminally ill person about men and work and 'just how hard you have it'...in my mind...
that would be a very good time for you to begin judging other people's sufferings.
Money can't solve this lady's problems. If she were to take a moment though to consider her situation... against say...the situations of the 18 homeless people living in dumpsters she passed on her way to her pedicure <-that might help. That's how her money can help ha.
Do you see disintegration about me?
1 or 5?
(7 vs 8)
Oh my money's on 8 for you valaki don't you kinda think? I mean, I think what you've got listed is accurate...I get the sense you know yourself pretty damn well. And while I haven't had a lot of exposure to you on the site I believe what I have seen is very much in line with 5>8>2
Would you mind illustrating an example of this? I thought when Magic said he was more of a slave to his superego and was very critical of himself when he violated what he thought he ought to do it sounded very 1ish. Maybe it could be being social-dom and Fi, but I'm both of those things and I'm not like that at all. I let myself off too easy. 
Would it be a so/sp vs so/sx difference?
