And what did we do to deserve that?
I didn't mean it in a negative way or anything. My companion is also an INFP like me (if I remember correctly, he's a 4w5), and we both get along very well. We understand and try to support each other through thick and thin. 
Aww
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That was a joke...and you should be insulted by it
I can't see myself with another INFP or even an IxFP. Just casually dating them feels incestuous. I feel like I know how their brain is working too well. I can predict too much.
It's a great friendship though
I used to think I was not a flake, at least not at ENFP level, until some recent events which could be filed squarely under flaky. The degree of it became evident to me when my mom told me, in an attempt to comfort, that it wasn't so bad because a certain "Karen", whom I type ENFP, has done the same thing more than once. This ENFP "Karen" is just about the most flakiest, fickle person you could imagine. She's smart, cool, interesting, and nice, but absolutely flaky. When I told my mom this comparison was no comfort because everyone says she is the flakiest person ever, she stayed quiet....she stayed quiet because she knows it's true. I suppose the comfort is that she doesn't believe this behavior deserves negative judgment or is all that bad, so that her view of "Karen" is also not negatively affected by it.
It was quite depressing to realize I was at that level of flaky, but it does give insight into how much internal motivation, intent, and effort there is to NOT flake out. I assign good intentions to these ENFPs, because it's not a weakness any worse than other weaknesses, it's just one that other people find hard to grasp, and so it's harder for them to accept it. I have some grasp of it, being nearly as bad at times....
Certainly, INFPs may be less flaky than ENFPs on the whole, but in comparison to everyone else, we can be kind of flaky still. Frankly, I don't find NTPs much better. Let's just all blame Ne
How do we become aware of these things in our own behavior, if they don't feel that way to ourselves? I suppose the INFPs might ask the same regarding their flaky behaviors. FWIW, the INFPs I have known come across as far less flaky than the ENFPs. Perhaps more spacy, in a "new age/flower child" sense.
This is where typology becomes remarkably useful.
They're both. ENFPs are more obviously flaky a their random Ne approach to things, but INFPs are less obviously, but in a way more profoundly flaky in an "I'm going to follow my heart" way, and so they follow their heart in whatever random direction it pulls. To themselves, their heart doesn't feel random, but to everyone else, it seems completely random, completely unaffected by common sense or any regard for the facts on the ground.
This only works if we run into people that are demonstrably our same type, which is rather rare, AND we have a negative experience with them.
I'm not sure, there's numerous times where I knew I was being an asshole but the other person deserved the treatment. I'm not an asshole on purpose for no reason. if I am it's because like you said I didn't see myself being an asshole.
Do you know what you do that other people take offense at, or conversely, what those who like you like about you?
