Do any of you all have problems with being a douchebag, or some other form of aggrivating other people? Am I the only one? How can I fix myself?
Yes, apparently a lot of people think I'm a douchebag, and it hurts, but I constantly have to remind myself that I "can't win 'em all".
Trying to please everybody doesn't work, and I often have to remind myself of that, as well.
Occasionally I have blown up in the past when I felt that people didn't like me, and most of the responses were, "I DID like you, but after THAT, I'm not so sure."
So, even though we're highly intuitive, we can also be highly paranoid and hypersensitive at times.
I think its fine and just part of an ENFPs personality to care what people think but its unhealthy to care to the point of blowing up and throwing fits.
That's some kind of attempt to
control what people think of us---which an ENFP naturally doesnt want to do---and it leads to harsh self-criticism and feelings of being a hypocrite.
I know there are some ENFPs who claim they don't care at all what people think of them and that they never throw fits, but for those of us who are prepared to ADMIT it---the only thing we can do is remind ourselves that not everyone is going to like us, and that it's OK.