Azure Flame
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I recently came across a child at work, an E3. He wants everyone to know he's the best, and he wants to be the best gymnast there is. He brags a lot etc.
His mother asked me what advice I had while teaching him, because she was clueless.
I told her some basic E3 stuff in layman's terms, but didn't have a solid answer to give her.
After some reflection on the subject, I started to realize what it means to be an E3, and some more on what it means to be E8 after reflecting on myself.
The child will do anything for recognition. He'll get good grades, learn great moves, help his parents out around the house, etc. These are all good things, however, the child needs to be given the reward of recognition ONLY when he does something out of the goodness of his heart, not when he's doing something disingenuine to gain recognition. If the child is given cookies for not behind himself, he'll have no reason to act like himself. In turn, this will turn him into an angry narcissistic adult who is jealous and vindictive toward those who behave genuine on a regular basis. To the E3, these people are "allowed to be themselves, while I am not!"
So I sit here and think about myself. In the past I've said, "I feel like I've never been fully allowed to be myself." However my motivation was different. I am loud, energetic, enthusiastic, genuine, and excited to do certain things. Sometimes, when I show any of these traits, people do whatever they can to stop me! I am literally, not allowed to be myself. Its against the rules, I get punished, I get passive aggressive backlash, etc.
Where an E3 may say, "Being myself gets me nothing in life!" I have once said, "Playing nice has gotten me nothing in life!"
I've sometimes considered E3 for myself, but its a tight rope to tread in some ways.
Just some differences I thought I'd point out.
His mother asked me what advice I had while teaching him, because she was clueless.
I told her some basic E3 stuff in layman's terms, but didn't have a solid answer to give her.
After some reflection on the subject, I started to realize what it means to be an E3, and some more on what it means to be E8 after reflecting on myself.
The child will do anything for recognition. He'll get good grades, learn great moves, help his parents out around the house, etc. These are all good things, however, the child needs to be given the reward of recognition ONLY when he does something out of the goodness of his heart, not when he's doing something disingenuine to gain recognition. If the child is given cookies for not behind himself, he'll have no reason to act like himself. In turn, this will turn him into an angry narcissistic adult who is jealous and vindictive toward those who behave genuine on a regular basis. To the E3, these people are "allowed to be themselves, while I am not!"
So I sit here and think about myself. In the past I've said, "I feel like I've never been fully allowed to be myself." However my motivation was different. I am loud, energetic, enthusiastic, genuine, and excited to do certain things. Sometimes, when I show any of these traits, people do whatever they can to stop me! I am literally, not allowed to be myself. Its against the rules, I get punished, I get passive aggressive backlash, etc.
Where an E3 may say, "Being myself gets me nothing in life!" I have once said, "Playing nice has gotten me nothing in life!"
I've sometimes considered E3 for myself, but its a tight rope to tread in some ways.
Just some differences I thought I'd point out.
