do you hold on to resentments?

[prplchknz]

I wanna know

for me I do as long as the situation causing the conflict is going on, once it's over I stop resenting the person. I tend to be one of those-I hate you, because you did this-then they apologize/i have an epiphany. Then I'll be their friend and I'll like them, usually

 

[LadyLazarus]

Nah, not worth it, fuck that gross resentment shit.
Forgive and forget unless it's something serious.

 

[Freesia]

No. It takes a lot of energy to stay angry and there are usually more important things to worry about.

 

[cafe]

While it's going on. *But* if they stop doing it for awhile, if they do it again, the resentment seems to come back full-force along with a sense of dread.

 

[prplchknz]

While it's going on. *But* if they stop doing it for awhile, if they do it again, the resentment seems to come back full-force along with a sense of dread.

yes, me too. I forgot about if they do it again caveat

 

[á´…eparted]

Usually no. Only unless there is a reason to do so, or until a person shows evidence of change to undo it.

 

[Morpeko]

It's disgusting and energy-consuming, but yeah.

I don't forget things that bother me. So if something bothers me to the point of resentment, you can bet that's sticking in my memory.

If a person can try to change things, that's nice and all, but I'd still have the memory of what they've done in the past. I can go back to respecting them, but things could never be the same.

 

[Maou]

It takes a lot to get me to resent you. I'll have bursts of anger, but I won't actually want to upset the other person. I give people way too many chances to get along with me, and its only when they've trampled on my ability to forgive one too many times. That I begin to grow resentful. I went with "as long as its going on" option.

 

[Saturnal Snowqueen]

The pain will never go away. Unfortunately, sometimes time only makes the pain worst. I'll never stop ruminating about it, not for a long time, but rarely do I truly resent the person, only the circumstances. I feel anger, envy, sometimes vengeful thoughts towards someone, but if they prove themselves worthy I'm willing to put aside those feelings and start a clean slate. Let bygones be bygones. We might be friends again, we might just slip back into acquaintances, but whatever it is its better than hating each other.

 

[Red Memories]

Yes.

 

[Stigmata]

Not really. For me, it's just not worth carrying around negative energy towards someone -- I'd rather just move on with my life while putting distance between us.

 

[J. Starke]

I do, even though I know it's useless and damaging to my psyche.

 

[Opal Star]

As a 1w2, resentment can be a huge issue for me. I often voice my resentment as criticisms.

 

[julesiscools]

Only as the moment is happening, and maybe a tiny bit after. I usually just end up forgetting about it.

 

[anticlimatic]

Slights that don't significantly impact you, or even slights that you can more or less deal with (like being mugged for your change) are not hard to let go- but deep slights that impact you in serious and negative ways can be very hard to let go of, regardless of whether or not you want to.

 

[Jaguar]

Depends on what we're talking about. Murder? Yeah, I just might resent that and hold on to it.

 

[theablekingedgar]

it depends. i suppose so. i don't think we're owed good feelings. or bad.