KDude
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The problem is that Fi demands authenticity to connect. How can you connect with someone if you truly do not see their pov? If you cannot understand where they are coming from, faking that you do is blasphemy in the eyes of Fi. That isnt a real connection, as honesty has left the building. Admitting that the connection isnt what it should be is bound to create more of a connection, than faking it till you make it..at least, for a Fi-user. At least then you know there is something to work on, more work to be done before you can get a genuine connection and fully grasp what the other person is about.
I don't think I need to make a connection really. Maybe a connection to someone else could help. Someone could twist my arm and say just "be nice". And then I look at the situation and bite my tongue. Maybe I even reassess and look at the person and think "poor bastard..." and I help. But I don't need a deeper connection. I might even do something to help and grumble at the same time. If they say thanks, I'm still a little pissed. "Whatever." I mustered enough sympathy to do something, but I don't need to be buddies.
edit: I don't know. Sometimes things need to be done and the job falls on you (you in general).