this conversation is actually a very good example of how i get along with male INFPs. i notice that you got my joke, and then, even better, laughed, and then moved right on to serious with me. to top it off, you then expanded with your thoughts, and to put the cherry on top, you opened up in an honest way. honesty and the ability to open up so that i can see it, is rare and very appreciated in another person. it takes guts and, not only that, it's necessary and builds up via digging in.
This is a good description. Shared Ne is very helpful in following the shifts, and ENTPs are often expressive enough for me to pick up on if something is silly or serious. Or, as often is the case, layered as both.
absolutely. i can't remember ever having a problem regarding shift changes, and the conversation is so comfortable that i know it'll be okay and understood if i said, "actually, i was being serious there." the INFPs ability to pick up on such things is a blessing because usually people can't tell at all when i shift.
they also make me laugh quite easily. i can't emphasize enough how important that is because it's a heavy burden to always be the one cracking the jokes. it's fun and comes naturally, sure, but it gets tiring to always be the one teasing/joking. i like to laugh just as much!
I think it helps that I rarely feel competitive with female ENTPs, and even when there is a bit of competition it often has a meta-wink-wink element to it. It opens the doorway to a type that views the world in very interesting, and very different, ways than I do.
i was thinking this same thing when i was writing my earlier post. there is no feeling of competing. i don't feel as though i'm going to hurt the other's feelings and i can tell that they're able to cut loose the same way for the same reason. the tendency to not judge on both parts plus the senses of humor go very far. i could easily see that getting a couple through the rough times.
My only concern with ENTPs would be when they get past a certain layer with me. It doesn't happen easily or quickly, but I worry I’d chase them off when deeper emotions begin to develop.
i'm so glad to be able to clear this up. even if it is for those few who read this thread. it's that next layer, and the deeper ones (even better if it's the deepest!) that i look forward to delving into. i can see why this wouldn't be assumed by others, but it's so true. to me, that 'certain layer' is for friends/acquaintances/etc. it's that next layer that gives me what i need in a relationship.
the deepest, darkest, most intense layers are the most precious. it's those that i want to find and feel protective over on the other's behalf. it's knowing, exploring those layers that i feel sets me apart from everyone else, so it's those that mean the most.
i can handle any truth, no matter what it is. i WANT to. to me, it's that deepest knowing that creates the strongest love. i need to know so that i can love completely, and that's the kind of love i need. the 'knowing/accepting' one.
people who spill everything to everyone are the ones that bore me easily and leave me feeling like i'm nothing special... just a soundboard.
Well, male INFPs are far too classy to be found at a Walmart. However, I hear that we can be found in the clearance aisle at Target. Target embarrassingly overstocked when they tried to capitalize on Johnny Depp madness.
pfft. my INFP is in the back stocking. those little bastards are always hiding.