So, let's say you are 17. Would that be nice?
And you had options for dating around, but maybe liked one guy (or girl) quite a bit.
However, that quite a bit could turn into something more than quite a bit, and lead to emotional attachments of a new height.
Do you:
A. Play the field, have fun, don't sweat large, complex, time consuming emotions
B. Pursue what could be super awesome and possibly end in pain.
Because you are 17. And ENTP. And flakey! Okay, not really, but you get the idea.
When I was 17 I took option B. And it was super awesome and it also ended in pain. So much pain.
I totally don't regret it. And I think I'd still pick option B over A in the long run.
But I have way more patience for the deep, complex, time-consuming emotions and pretty much no patience for the others. The idiotic drama that seems to surround "playing the field" really turns me off (most of the time it never seems like it can be "just fun").
I dunno, overall I feel I'm wasting the same amount of attention on emotions, just emotions of different caliber. And I'd rather eat steak than a McDonalds burger.
+1
B first, then A!
Just because you're wild about someone right now but don't know how it would work out in the long run, doesn't mean you'd have to get married if you went for it! You're 17 for gawd's sake!
It's true that by putting your heart on the line, you risk getting hurt, but the pain of the end of a relationship is a small price to pay for the richness of living life to the fullest. Living life to the fullest requires taking risks and getting hurt once in awhile. Every time you get hurt, you become a bit stronger for it.
But you also have to promise yourself to be willing to be the one to end the relationship if it isn't working for you, even if that means hurting the other person if he still wants it to continue. That can be hard, too, but it's better for both of you than continuing in a relationship that isn't working anymore.
If living life to the fullest means option A, then go for A! For me, if I'm wondering and obsessing about someone and it's mutual, living life to the fullest means option B.
So I would recommend whichever one means living life to the fullest for you. From what you've written, I suspect it's option B.
Go for it!!
