redcheerio
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What is your INFP Mom like? I think my Mom is INFJ, but then there are times I think she's INFP or INTJ. I see a lot of what looks like Fi. Some Fi attitudes translate as selfishness to me. Like quietly walking out of the room disturbed when she doesn't like where a conversation is going. Selfishness is not a quality I see in my Dad. My Mom is very sweet and thoughtful too; there's just something there I can't quite put my finger on, but I wish I could. I want to understand what cognitive function the behavior is associated with.
Sometimes, she sees the simplest things that my Dad and I totally miss. I can't even describe it, it's so impressive when she does it and hilarious! Hilarious because she's so quiet and just when it looks like she's not listening, out of nowhere, she'll interrupt the discussion I'm having with my Dad and say something that can only be described as *brilliant*.
Yeah, sometimes Fi looks selfish to me, too. My mom is sweet, but she can be very impatient, and has been spoiled by my sweet dad. He does so many overly considerate things for her without her asking him to, that she expects it and gets annoyed when he doesn't do them. I think she is unfair to him sometimes, and I wish he would stand up for himself.
I sometimes have boundary problems as well, and I think I got it from him. My hub thinks my whole family is too nice, and that I am also, because of it. He's good at helping me figure out how to respond appropriately to situations that confuse me when I need to set boundaries and stand up for myself.
Anyway, she is also very creative, and used to help me come up with ideas for what to write about in school. She always wanted to be a writer, but stayed home to look after us kids instead. She did publish a few stories in magazines, though, but she didn't make a living of it. I think she has talent, but her writing was a bit too simple. She probably could have made it if she'd gone to school beyond high school.
She's also very talented in flower arranging and other kinds of crafts. She did the flowers for our wedding, and she did a gorgeous job. She trained herself how to do it. She loves all kinds of arts and crafts.
She's also very affectionate, and I used to confide in her about personal stuff, while I would confide in my dad about career-related stuff.
She loves that we all get along, and always comments on how lucky we are to have such a great dad. I think that we could probably do more to show her some appreciation, too.
Aw, now I'm missing them.
So what did you mean about your mom's brilliant observations of simple things about you and your dad?
PS - I have a theory that being a housewife can make you selfish in some ways, even though having kids forces people to be selfless, especially moms. Moms who are housewives are sometimes a strange combination of selfish and selfless.
There are certain important lessons in life about interacting with people that people who never work with others never learn for themselves. This can be true of housewives for that reason. (My mom has been working since we were teenagers, though, so I'm not referring to her.)