Oh, it's not so bad!
Any of that lazy/numb/conflict-avoidance bullshit is true to a point, but hardly encapsulates how the nine type can manifest. There are so many other good things, too! Like the fact that when we put our minds to something, we can TAKE OVER THE WORLD.
Diplomacy is a way negative nine traits can manifest positively, I think. Since we naturally find conflict unpleasant, our ability to pinpoint what could be a point of contention can be used to try and resolve and reconcile, rather than ignore or gloss over!
I also find that I can very easily bounce back from negative events because I don't like to internalize bad energy. Sometimes this leads to problems, like forgetting how certain people can treat you poorly, or thinking that maybe if you do that stupid thing you did a second time, the end result won't be as bad as the first time you did it. Other times, however, if you consciously mind how ignoring or forgetting the consequences have hurt you, it can be an invaluable asset that serves more good than it does bad.
I don't know if this is a common nine thing, however, since that just may be me and my own flexibility.
Interestingly, though, it might be helpful to think of what you do when there is conflict occurring directly around you.
When I was younger, my mom and her husbands/boyfriend (this was throughout several years - my mother is not a floozy) would argue and yell A LOT, and I was always there. Sometimes, in the midst of their shouting matches, someone would always end up saying "Don't talk around your/my daughter like that!" But I never interacted, and basically carried on my business as usual as if they weren't there, and shut them out completely - no crying, no involvement, and I never tried to leave. I just went into my own head and ignored them.
It was incredibly passive of me, and I shut them out to try and keep myself as uninvolved as possible. That's pretty nine, especially since I never said or did
anything to try and stop them, and would generally laugh it off when my mother would apologize later on.
It was a pretty alright coping mechanism, though I'm trying to train myself to not fear confronting an issue head on. It's difficult, since I've been doing the exact opposite for so many years, but I guess it's coming along.
Anyways, there's good and there is bad. Hopefully you find out your type, if only to satiate your curiosity.
