Q1. As a general rule, I'm always directed towards success and solving
the problems. 5 - absolutely. I give sympathy and validation to others who confide their stuff in me, but it's with a sense of bafflement because although I've learned to recognise when people want it, I can't imagine myself finding a use for it. When something's wrong, my sole interest is in making it right or adapting in some way to make things cool again. People saying "there, there" to me is just useless and irritating.
Q2. As of right now, I'm urgently trying to improve my lot in life. 3 - I'm trying to improve it, but not urgently
Q3. I often joke about other people's problems. 4 - not usually nastily though, but often ruthlessly if they're not around and I know it won't get back to them, if I think their "problems" are ridiculous or the result of ridiculous aspects of their personality
Q4. People should support the good mood in a group.4
Q5. Life is so unjust, I almost wish I wouldn't have to take part in it. 2 - "fair" doesn't mean "I get what I want with the same frequency as other people I know"
Q6. I often get depressed from all those terrible things happening to me.1 - some bad shit happens and has happened to me, but it doesn't get me down. It's just challenges I've got to man up to and each one teaches me something.
Q7. I should be treated with dignity, because I'm a human being afterall. 5
Q8. I don't get that depressed at all when discussing dark topics. 5
Q9. I wouldn't want to spoil the mood by complaining about my problems.4
Q10. If someone loved me, they would listen to my problems and give me comfort. 4 - but that doesn't mean they should be expected to take on those problems themselves.
Q11. People should understand how they make others feel with what they say. 5
Q12. If people want respect, they have to treat others with respect. 5
Q13. I can't relate to most of the stuff that happy people talk about.3 - I relate to most of what most people talk about, simply because I've had an extremely varied life experience and a very chequered past, so I've been in most people's shoes and if I haven't, I've enough imagination to see their POV. I don't relate to what someone says just cos they're happy, or not relate just cos they're not. But the WAY in which they talk about it might be something I find either enjoyable, frustrating or irritating.
Q14. Happy people don't seem to have any depth.1 - in fact, I find people who are permanently down to be very self-absorbed
Q15. I can tolerate, even enjoy, a lot of depressive ideas.3 - I can consider and discuss them and enjoy the discussion, because I'm detached from them and don't "take them on" or end up dwelling on them
Q16. If I'm on a bad mood, everyone should be on a bad mood. 1
Q17. I cry with those who cry, and I laugh with those who laugh. 3 I laugh if I feel like laughing, and I never cry - ever.
Q18. Some people's personal problems are a joke. 3 - I do sometimes joke about other people's problems, but in a good-natured way usually, aimed at cheering them up
Q19. Things often turn out bad in my life.4 - usually for simple practical and financial reasons, that whole poverty trap thing, but it doesn't grind me down and I don't see myself as "cursed" or particularly unfortunate.
Q20. As a general rule, I'm a happy person. 4
Q21. Depressive thoughts are always with me. 2 - they occur to me, but not for long and they don't get me down much
Q22. Life is easy enough for me to have happy, carefree mood for the most time. I do have a happy, carefree disposition, but it's not from my life being easy - it's never been easy! I've just found other things to look for than an easy life, which make me happy.
Q23. I can put my feelings aside when I need to do something important. 5 - I put them aside most of the time, habitually. It's harder for me to NOT put them aside than to do so.
Q24. If bad enough things happen to me, I just spill it out and make it known to everyone. 2 - depends how bad or bad in what way. Bureaucratic bullshit and stuff like that, I'll have a quick rant and make it amusing if I can, then forget about it. Personal stuff, no, I don't talk about it except to my closest friends and then only when we're drunk, and I still laugh about it and make it funny and okay for them to as well.
Q25. My mood is a result of things that have happened to me, and I can't help it. 1 - my mood is a result of the way I choose to respond to the things that happen to me, it's my responsibility. You can take the same event and put five different people thru it and they'll all respond in different ways. It's not the event, it's the person.
Q26. I live through my moods very intensively. I don't even know what this means.
Q27. I'm easy to get along with. Most people say I am, I've been selected for roles and jobs on that basis specifically.
Q28. I'm such a burden to other people. 2 - I sometimes get a feeling that I might've out-stayed my welcome, but I think everyone does and I don't wallow in it. Most of the time I'm aware that people are with me because they choose to be, and I leave it up to them to decide whether I'm a "burden" or not.
Q29. Take me as I am, or leave me be. 3 - I like to be accepted for who I am, but I don't expect that to mean people let me get away with bad behaviour because it's "who I am". I'm concerned to improve "who I am" in light of feedback from others.
Q30. Other people are there to help me with my problems. 2 - Other people are there for reasons of their own, as am I. It doesn't matter what those reasons are - if we get along, we get along *shrug* I'm aware usually of which of my problems can be solved through others' support and which can't, and when and from whom it's appropriate to ask for that support and when it's not.
Incidentally Santtu, it sounds to me from these questions that you're dealing with a bit of an emotional vampire, who's taking advantage of your open mind and self-doubt. I've been there... ugh!
I think you got everything right, I have nothing more substantial to add to this. I'm impressed and feeling slightly exposed. Thank you! 
as well. 
